LippyOron Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Thing is I've never felt any type of jealousy with none of my ex gfs nor current gf. I've gone to a club with my gf countless times, other guys would hit on her and danced with her. Nothing. It don't even feel mad nor jealous. Also, a girl's sexual past never bothered but. Actually I have the opposite reaction; it turns me on and I wanted to hear more. If your bf was this way, would it bothered you girls? I just realized I might not have that jealousy, territorial trait within me.
Author LippyOron Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 The reason I'm asking if because one of my ex gf questioned me about this. She told how it was a surprise to her that I didn't react when another guy was dancing with her and I was right there or ''You don't really mind I have a past don't you, most don't want to hear it''.
todreaminblue Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Thing is I've never felt any type of jealousy with none of my ex gfs nor current gf. I've gone to a club with my gf countless times, other guys would hit on her and danced with her. Nothing. It don't even feel mad nor jealous. Also, a girl's sexual past never bothered but. Actually I have the opposite reaction; it turns me on and I wanted to hear more. If your bf was this way, would it bothered you girls? I just realized I might not have that jealousy, territorial trait within me. the gf or bf becomes more of a trophy when other guys or women want her or him sort of scenario.turns some guys and girls on.........it shouldnt turn anyone on means you dont really care for the woman or man at all more like an ego trip...... jealousy is normal......especially if your gf or bf is being flirted with ,eventual anger is a normal reaction ...controlling those feelings are key......deb
Jbum5 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Maybe you've satisfied one of the criteria required in order to join the swinger's club - there's a possibility. 2
Jowee Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 I wouldnt say it isnt natural Kimberly... maybe not very common, but unnatural is a stretch. To the OP be lucky you don't feel this because it is a crappy feeling, besides it is much easier to fake being jealous than fake not being jealous. I think you are blessed... seriously, you lucked out.
ja123 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Maybe you're into cuckoldry. A lot of men are these days. Anyhow, I think it's cool that you're not jealous. I have a friend who moved overseas. We had a very special connection. We were also lovers. I think I really do love him. He mentioned in a recent email that he spent a few nights with his ex when he went back to his home country. Funny thing is ... I wasn't jealous at all.
todreaminblue Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 jealousy and drama are two obsessions most girls have. every guy should know this. i think its natural......if someone doesn't feel sick watching their partner get it on with someone else........theres no heart there..its when you bury that sickness and not be true to what your heart really feels....that problems start...deb
Jowee Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 (edited) I really hope this is not something people do because they think its cute to see someone get jealous, or to do it to test the relationship, or doing it to see if the person gets possessive. In the first scenario, you are deriving pleasure from your partner experiencing emotional pain... emotional pain YOU caused. That is cruel. In the second scenario, you are risking your relationship in order to test it... not very wise or respectful of your partner. Third scenario, well this should be obvious from other situations... you shouldn't need to test this. I think the fact is this, if you are in a relationship with someone you should respect them enough to not give them a reason to get jealous in the first place. Also to the OP I stand by my take that your lack of feeling jealousy is definitely natural... it may not be common but it is natural. It may be because you aren't wired to feel this emotion (good for you honestly) or it could be because you have extremely high self esteem and you just don't care. One way or the other it is definitely NATURAL. No one else has a right to tell you that your experiences are not natural... Edited April 26, 2013 by Jowee
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 I'm the jealous type so I can't comment on this.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 rule one for a man. don't take a woman's advice. This is probably the best (and most accurate) post ever written on this forum.
ltjg45 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 I'm not the jealous type. However, the only time I actually do get jealous is when my girl is being entertained so easily by another guy and I'm wondering where did I fail at for her to forget about me momentarily. It surely doesn't give me the approval that I'm being a good boyfriend for her.
TheGuard13 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Jealousy happens. People need to learn to deal with it in a variety of situations. But I think a woman who is upset that her significant other isn't jealous is either way too insecure or emotionally immature. I dealt with that myself with my ex-wife.
Poppy fields Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 The people I know who participate in that sort of activity (successfully anyway without ruining their relationships), have this trait the OP describes. One of the reasons why I wont date someone who never feels jealousy is because at some point, theyll expect me to allow them to bring others into the bedroom because they dont experience jealousy. Id rather someone more compatible... My husband is just not the jealous type. He is not into other people in the bedroom either, I can assure you. I enjoy having a not jealous husband. It is very relaxing and freeing. (No, not in the free love way)
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