all_cats_rgray Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Their are many time this year I have put on a brave face. But its still really hard, and what's harder is that I feel like I should be over it by now. Iv had ups and down's. Months of happiness, these are one of the day's I feel like it's day one. During these day's I feel like nothing has changed. I miss my ex, deeply. I guess I have to push through this darkness, again. BUT really, I thought time heals all wounds. How many people feel like they aren't as healed as they thought they would be. And why do you think it is?
youngnlove89 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Their are many time this year I have put on a brave face. But its still really hard, and what's harder is that I feel like I should be over it by now. Iv had ups and down's. Months of happiness, these are one of the day's I feel like it's day one. During these day's I feel like nothing has changed. I miss my ex, deeply. I guess I have to push through this darkness, again. BUT really, I thought time heals all wounds. How many people feel like they aren't as healed as they thought they would be. And why do you think it is? Why do you think you "should" be over it by now? Is there a race to the finish line? A certain amount of time allotted to feel this way? Heartbreak, even though widely known, it can feel completely lonely. It can feel like you are really the only person who feels what you feel. That darkness you are talking about, I see it everyday. That longing you mention, I feel it every day. Looking ahead, I can't see the light, and looking back I can't see how far I've come... Time does heal, but it's different for everyone. Heartbreak has cruel intentions when it comes to reminding you that it isn't through with you yet. Just when you think you are feeling better, it sits on your chest at night like a figurative little devil, haunting you... It's a battle we will face for awhile. It isn't wrong to feel the way you are feeling. You loved someone. You know how great that is? You are a good person and that is why you feel the way you do. Because you have a big heart. Talk it out. Cry. Shout. But don't ever push it away like it is a sin. 4
Author all_cats_rgray Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 To feel is human, then why does it feel like a weakness. I guess it bothers me so much because my ex looks happy with a new lover. Makes me question how delusional I was about my relationship. How out of control, blinding, and stupid it feels. It's humiliating to think well he's happy and having a great time, im still moping about it.. But ty, love is a great gift. Wish I could give it away. 1
youngnlove89 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 To feel is human, then why does it feel like a weakness. I guess it bothers me so much because my ex looks happy with a new lover. Makes me question how delusional I was about my relationship. How out of control, blinding, and stupid it feels. It's humiliating to think well he's happy and having a great time, im still moping about it.. But ty, love is a great gift. Wish I could give it away. Listen, stop feeling this way...blinding, stupid, out of control. You do realize that YOU are putting yourself down, right? You need yourself the most right now and to kick your confidence, self-worth and pride down like a dirty whore isn't gong to help you...at all. I don't know the entire situation, but sometimes things can appear to be fine on the outside than in the actual relationship. I'm not saying anything to get your hopes up, but just letting you know perception can be deceiving. I go to work everyday with a smile on my face and I don't mean it, but I do it because I have to. I know it's hard to redirect your thoughts, but try to think of other things. I can't imagine how difficult it is to see someone you love, love someone else. That's rough. I give you credit for enduring such a horrible time. Know it won't be easy, but the last thing you need to do is knock yourself for it. Love yourself instead, take care of you... I hate to ruin the ending for you and all...but everything will be okay. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 All Cats, I feel ya. This has been a very rough week for me. I feel as bad or worse than I did when this whole thing happened. I guess all we can do is hang in there. I know that's not much, but it's all we have 2
bluecrabroll Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Its been a rough week for me too where I feel like I relapsed back for the same reason that I feel like my ex is happy. We should be happy for them cause we care for them, but our happiness comes from within. Its ok to have a bad day but don't beat yourself up because of it. We've all made great progress and we got to keep pushing through to the other side. Try not to think about him and his happiness. Think about you and how you can make yourself feel happy. 1
Author all_cats_rgray Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 Thanks everyone, it sucks to lose perspective. I remind myself, ... Everything was great in the first few years of are relationship. I know things will be great for them for a long time. Its called the romance period. Regardless this had nothing to do with me, and I have no control over it. The only control I have is how I react to it. And I chose to not give a s h i t about it. And to make my self happy. The only control I have what I do with the situation. Thanks for the motivation. 1
youngnlove89 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Thanks everyone, it sucks to lose perspective. I remind myself, ... Everything was great in the first few years of are relationship. I know things will be great for them for a long time. Its called the romance period. Regardless this had nothing to do with me, and I have no control over it. The only control I have is how I react to it. And I chose to not give a s h i t about it. And to make my self happy. The only control I have what I do with the situation. Thanks for the motivation. AWESOME!! That's what I'm talking about. Keep thinking this way babe!
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