SalientPoint Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 So in the past, usually when I got dumped I found NC to be a breeze because people would either confess to cheating on me or leaving me for someone else, or more importantly my ex's never contacted me, so the whole thing was easy. It used to drive one of my ex's crazy (who cheated on me and left me for her 17 years older sugar daddy co-worker) that I could totally be within 5 feet of her (we had a lot of mutual friends at the time and went to the same gym) and completely and totally pretend like she wasn't there. This latest ex has proved to be quite the challenge. I was doing fine, but she has a pattern thus far of not talking for around 4 days, and then texting me. Last night I got the full very drunken lonely phone call from her saying all the right things that of course I was an absolute tool/fool to even answer said call, let alone believe. After a lot of I miss you's and I am in love with you after alls, of course again today in the cold sober light, no more contact from her. And now I realize I was lame for toeing the line. HOWEVER, I will say that at least for me personally LC is having its benefit in a way because the more degraded I feel at now being a late night drunken phone call recipient and then forgotten in the sober light of day, is making me crave NC more and more to the point where I know when I commit to it even more than I've been trying to, I'll be fine. I feel a lot closer to this point than I ordinarily would, so if this does happen again, as it may in 4 days, hopefully I can have more strength then. For all the people that beat themselves up for breaking NC, maybe we just need to view it as a constructive lesson. 1
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