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Still cheating after 15 years.............


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I have been involved off and on for the same guy that i used to work with for 15 years now. :o

I am married with two boys 13 and 10, my husband is a good provider, good worker etc but he has never been there for me emotionally like this other guy has.

 

If i had problems at work he would say "your problem you deal with it" or if something went wrong at home it was ALWAYS my fault. To top it off his family doesn't like me as i stick up for myself and won't let them walk all over me, the way that he does. :sick:

 

This other guy knows me inside and out, knows my likes dislikes etc more than my own husband does. His marriage broke down years ago before we ever became really involved and he has two kids the same age as mine.

I feel safe when i am with him and know he would walk on water for me. :rolleyes:

 

My problem is that my husband and i split up for a while two years ago and i was going through a rough time, i really thought he would make his move and we would get together finally, didn't happen, he just sat on the fence as they say and did nothing :eek:

 

My husband and i are back together and are trying to work out the differences between us, things have been alot better lately, financially and emotionally. :)

 

This other guy has still been calling me off and on for the past year and i finally saw him again on the weekend and it happened all over again. I don't know what it is about him i can't shake him :o

To top it off i worked with both his parents in the same company and they just love me, think he should have married me instead of his wife. :o

 

Confused in Canada

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Your addicted to him, that truly happens and he is addicted to you but as the it's been stated in other threads and for obvious reasons men are different than women when viewing a relationship. You've made it easy for him to not commit, you've been there for him to have sex with (no strings attached) for 15 yrs. When you separated from your husband, that should have been the moment (right or wrong) this guy should have made his move. Since he didn't, he failed you big time and showed you what your relationship was about...he wants an affair and that's all. He likes the excitement and is addicted to the feeling.

 

If you truly love your husband and want to make your marriage work, you need to do everything you can to get this man out of your life. Yes the grass is greener on the other side but you haven't lived with the other side and you just can't have a clue as to how things would really be if you were together...however that's beside the point, he just wants an affair, he let you down when you needed him most....he's not THE ONE! The relationship is just about sex. Do your husband a favor (in the name of dignity and STD's) and divorce him if you are going to continue in this relationship. It seems you are keeping the hubby around for a net so you will have someone in your life when the MM isn't around. That's so unfair.

 

 

Work it out or leave. Find someone who is unattached and start your life over....heck, start your life over before you bring any relationship back in....

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When You and your husband were separated did your MM contact you to help ease your pain? I know it is hard to discontinue a relationship, but if he wasn't there for you when you were alone, he needs to be let go. He doesn't want a relationship with you. He just wants sex.

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