chimom Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 If you decided to be friends after a breakup (and you were the one who was dumped), did you feel like you them to fully explain what happened before you could be friends? Not sure I'm going to be friends but and it's going to be a long while, but I can't imagine going there without knowing what happened between us. Were the feelings real, etc., why did she really decide we couldn't be together, etc. (As you can see from the post I made yesterday, I have no idea what really happened as the story I heard and the story our mutual friend heard do not jibe.) Or, when you decide to be friends, is all this stuff water under the bridge that doesn't matter? You are right, I am not moving on, feel very very stuck, sick and depressed. (And yes, a lot of it is from feeling unworthy of being loved; I get that that's at least 50% of what I am feeling.)
hope89 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 If she said that she wanted to be friend with you, she do that just to hurt you less. She dont realy want to be friend with you, and you dont need to be friend with someone who break your heart! Head up, delete all contacts and focus on yourself. You realy dont need someone who break your heart and dump you!
OwlSoul Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Wow, I felt the same as you at some point. My ex and I actually had a talk about it before going into the friends thing (welp, we haven't acted like friends after this at all, no deep talks, just playing some games together). Yes, when someone breaks up with you, you really doubt there was love, you doubt every single word said by the person. But now, looking back to that moment and the talk, I realize that my ex was confused as well as I was. And could not give any real satisfying answers. Eventually, it does not matter.
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