amythan Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Hi there, I will try to make the long story short but I am confused as hell. I met this guy at work last November, he is based in another city though. We started talking and flirting (we even kissed once) but he told me he had a gf and i told him to call me when he was single. During this time we were emailing back and forth but he was always conflicted and saying that we can just meet for coffee and never in the evening because we liked each other too much. A month went by and last week he emailed me saying that he missed our conversations and if I wanted to be friends. I do not want to be friends but just said yes to avoid drama. But surprisingly he emails me non-stop and we are again back to the flirting and teasing. But this time he said he wants to come here and he doesn't seem conflicted anymore. He gives lots of information about his evenings and weekends and the gf is never around. He even asked me if i was seeing someone. To be honest it looks like a nice guy and not a player by any means .. BUT if feels wrong. I want to know if he has a gf because i do not want to go down this road if it is a waste. In this case a polite email from time to time it would be more than enough. Also if he is single i do not know what he wants. He can like me but this does not equals to be interested in a relationship and I do not want to entertain him during working hours and sleep with him during his work trips down here. So I do not know what to do ... I cannot ask all this stuff without sound crazy. We started talking again last week but the sooner I cut my loses the better. Thanks for your comments
Treasa Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Hi there, I will try to make the long story short but I am confused as hell. I met this guy at work last November, he is based in another city though. We started talking and flirting (we even kissed once) but he told me he had a gf and i told him to call me when he was single. During this time we were emailing back and forth but he was always conflicted and saying that we can just meet for coffee and never in the evening because we liked each other too much. A month went by and last week he emailed me saying that he missed our conversations and if I wanted to be friends. I do not want to be friends but just said yes to avoid drama. But surprisingly he emails me non-stop and we are again back to the flirting and teasing. But this time he said he wants to come here and he doesn't seem conflicted anymore. He gives lots of information about his evenings and weekends and the gf is never around. He even asked me if i was seeing someone. To be honest it looks like a nice guy and not a player by any means .. BUT if feels wrong. I want to know if he has a gf because i do not want to go down this road if it is a waste. In this case a polite email from time to time it would be more than enough. Also if he is single i do not know what he wants. He can like me but this does not equals to be interested in a relationship and I do not want to entertain him during working hours and sleep with him during his work trips down here. So I do not know what to do ... I cannot ask all this stuff without sound crazy. We started talking again last week but the sooner I cut my loses the better. Thanks for your comments He kissed you while HE knew he had a girlfriend. You didn't know, but HE did. Ok, so to start off with, I would be completely disgusted and wouldn't even like that loser. Actually, he wouldn't have even gotten a kiss until I had known more about him. Secondly, you don't know if he has a girlfriend? Why not ask him? I don't see why it would change things, as he clearly doesn't mind doing things behind his girlfriend's back.
BluEyeL Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Yes, ask him directly if he has a girlfriend. that's not crazy.
Author amythan Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 No, it was not like that. He told me he had a gf, nothing was supposed to happen between us but we went together one evening and we kissed. Both agreed it was wrong and never happened again. So I just want to know if now he is free because if he is not I do not want to invest more time and energy here. I do not think he is a bad person or a player, I think he was just confused and conflicted.
Maleficent Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Hi there, I will try to make the long story short but I am confused as hell. I met this guy at work last November, he is based in another city though. We started talking and flirting (we even kissed once) but he told me he had a gf and i told him to call me when he was single. During this time we were emailing back and forth but he was always conflicted and saying that we can just meet for coffee and never in the evening because we liked each other too much. A month went by and last week he emailed me saying that he missed our conversations and if I wanted to be friends. I do not want to be friends but just said yes to avoid drama. But surprisingly he emails me non-stop and we are again back to the flirting and teasing. But this time he said he wants to come here and he doesn't seem conflicted anymore. He gives lots of information about his evenings and weekends and the gf is never around. He even asked me if i was seeing someone. To be honest it looks like a nice guy and not a player by any means .. BUT if feels wrong. I want to know if he has a gf because i do not want to go down this road if it is a waste. In this case a polite email from time to time it would be more than enough. Also if he is single i do not know what he wants. He can like me but this does not equals to be interested in a relationship and I do not want to entertain him during working hours and sleep with him during his work trips down here. So I do not know what to do ... I cannot ask all this stuff without sound crazy. We started talking again last week but the sooner I cut my loses the better. Thanks for your comments Hell yes you can ask him if he has a girlfriend. And the answer should be yes or no. Not yes but blahbitty blah blah blah or no but blah bitty blah blah blah If it's a yes - you're out. If it's a no : well you're in if you want to (I would make him for it a little but that's just me...) Otherwise you're just running towards a brick wall.
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