davidlee Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Hi guys, i broke up with my bf in Jan we tried remaining friends but things just tuned from bad to worse. We argued all the time about silly things and when he moved on it hurt like hell. ive really been neglecting myself ever since and i want to use this forum to help me lose my obsession with him and move on. A part of me still wants him as a friend, but i guess that might come in time. Until then, i want to use no contact for 60 days to gain my power back. I will appreciate any suggestions or comments you have or even advice. I feel really low and any support is well appreciated.
lonewalker Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 The one who moved on faster always hurt lesser. I guess. Dont count ur days. No contact means forever until u dont feel anything for him. Why count? 60days wont change anything if u still lingers for him. Since he has moved on. U should too. And no contact is nit for him to get u back. But really for u to heal. U were fine before u met him. U will be fine after he left too. 2
barky2 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Great reply from above. You saying 60 days is clinging to hope that after that time something will happen. Instead, I want you to make it through one day at a time. It will be brutal that I can assure you. You will be fine, that's also something I can assure you. Suggestions? Sure I'll name a few that helped me. Family first and foremost. Friends will help you tremendously. Get active, run, go to the gym. Just be outside period. I go to the gym, then bring my Rottweiler for a walk. Go out, dress up to the tens, feel good about it. When guys start hitting on you ull feel so much better. Pick up a hobby! I got back and started coaching little league. And before you know it ull be at 90 days nc and be like where has the time gone? During that time, if and when he contacts you, be aloof...don't act busy because you SHOULD be busy!! Keep it short simple and to the point.....that's even if you choose to speak with him. If you want to forget this guy completely than change your number ect. Its a hard road, but after you've been through it and you wake up happy again, your going to tell yourself... I can concur anything...BRING IT ON WORLD. Oh and if you feel the need to reach out to him.and nc gets tough, post Here...I'll follow your thread and I'll always give you 10 reasons why not to contact him. Good luck sweetheart, ull be just fine. Oh and PS...I'm proud of u dammit! 1
Author davidlee Posted May 1, 2013 Author Posted May 1, 2013 Hi guys I failed! Ha surprise I was weak and sent him my 10th goodbye email and he replied with a nice email too. And I was lonely and replied back. I know I shouldn't but it was just to say thanks and give him some advice about moving on. I agree with all your points on here the one who moved fasted really wasn't that attached... I dunno. It hurts. I'm angry depressed and fed up. We haven't spoken for 3 days which feels werid but I guess it's all progression. I know I shouldn't count but counting keeps me sain. I'm scared about the future. Thanks
Author davidlee Posted May 1, 2013 Author Posted May 1, 2013 Can you ever be friends with an ex...especially one where the break up was so protracted...we've been breaking up for. 4 months!
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