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[J.Esco]

A little background on me and my wife, we have been marriedfor 4 years. She 30 and I just turned 27. We both work in the same law firm. Wedated for a year before getting married and we don’t have kids yet.

 

The problem is with my wife she acting very strange. She doesn’tspend time with me anymore she even gets angry when I ask her if she wants tospend some time together or do anything together. It’s like she doesn’t want mearound. At first I thought maybe it was something I did or said so I asked herand she end blowing it out proportion and screaming at me when I’m just tryingto figure out what was wrong. I tried being extra nice to her cooking dinner soshe wouldn’t have to walking her dog, doing all the dishes. None of it isworking and I don’t know what else to do. We used to have a great relationshipwe would do everything together. It’s all going downhill now and I’m justconfused and lost

 

PS. If more info is need just ask. It’s my first time doing something like thisso I’m kind of a newbie and sorry if this hard to read I’m not native speaker my first langue is Spanish not English

[Disenchantedly Yours]

You did just fine with your post. Don't worry.

 

It sounds like your wife may need just a little space. I suggest that you leave her be for a couple days. Don't cater to her, just be nice and yourself but don't go out of the way to do extra stuff for her. Do your own things. Fix something around the house or enjoy a hobbie of yours. Just from talking to some of my friends and my Mom and aunts, it seems that sometimes men can get lost in the relatoinship in their desire to please and sometimes, they don't give enough space to their partners when this happens. My Aunt has this problem with my Uncle. She has a small group of friends of her own but he really doesn't. All he's done his whole life revolved around his family and working. So when he isn't working, he is looking for a lot of attention from my Aunt. She has mentioned that it would be nice if he got a hobby or a male buddy to hang out with once-in-awhile.

 

But back to you, once the few days has passed and she has had time to cool down and have some of her own space, tell her you'd like to talk about the relationship. Ask her what is going on, how she feels about the relationship, tell her how you feel. Open up a discussion. The only way you are going to know what is going on is by talking to her in a calm and non accusatory way.

 

And in your relationship, still find time for *you*. As long as you are doing constructive things, this is attractive to women.

 

It wasn't fair for her to blow up at you and she should apologize for it, but if she is feeling like she isn't getting enough space, that could have caused the blow up.