diskostu Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 need some help in understanding this one. Invited a girl to my place to "watch a game". She texted back that "don't take this the wrong way, but i had planned on getting some work done tonight". I wrote back "ok". An hour later she then texted "did you really mean you were home alone tonight?". I live with a room mate. I texted back a couple of hours later "yup, i was". When i saw her today, she seemed cold. Didn't even say hi to me. We've been seeing each other for a few weeks now. We have had sex. She has also told me she has feelings for me.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Girls change their mind constantly and act on their emotions, not logic (it's called "chick logic"). I would completely ignore this and just treat it as if it never happened.
pyramid Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 I'd be annoyed too. Being alone with you > getting work done > watching a game (assuming w/ roomie). You didn't give her all the info up front, and she's mad because you didn't respond to her second text until it was too late.
Jbum5 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Her behavior is the result of the extended time, in her eyes at least, that it took you to reply a simple question. In fact, although she was busy doing work she still followed-up with you an hour later and it took you two to respond. Given the circumstances you described, she feels like you were being a dick although you were really just a moron. Be a winner instead.
DaSkullCrusher Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 She's obviously playing games. Don't bow down my friend. Don't jump through hoops. She's an adult and can act like one.
phineas Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 I'd be annoyed too. Being alone with you > getting work done > watching a game (assuming w/ roomie). You didn't give her all the info up front, and she's mad because you didn't respond to her second text until it was too late. True, OP is dumb. But if I were the guy & I was home alone without plans, my phone is on the charger & forgotten about unless I hear the ringer. I rarely hear it beep when a text comes in if i'm not in the same room.
Star Gazer Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Huh? Is anyone actually reading the OP? The title is totally misleading. Why? 1. She didn't flake. That wouls require an original yes/agreement. She said no, that she has work to do. 2. She didn't change her mind. She just asked if he was really alone. Sheesh.
DaSkullCrusher Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Regardless of the situation, her asking "were you really alone?" in my opinion is a game. Why would it matter if he was really alone or not?
Star Gazer Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Regardless of the situation, her asking "were you really alone?" in my opinion is a game. Why would it matter if he was really alone or not? Because she may think that if she said no, he'd invite another girl. She likely has a reason she felt it necessary to ask.
wild wolf Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Is the concept of an actual phone call unheard of anymore? Would erase a lot of assumption and misunderstandings. Just saying...
JourneyLady Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 It might matter if she wanted to be alone with him. That and the delay in his answering probably put her off. Guys, if you want to ask us to do something with you, please call - that way we can -finish- the conversation and no one will be in the dark. I've had a couple of these kinds of conversations via text and they don't work out well... For instance... My daughter texts me: Can you do me a favor? I text right back: Could be. What is it? Never hear back from her. It's three weeks later and I still don't know what it was! I'm sure not going to say yes until I know what the favor is. So if you're going to ask someone out, ask if they want to do something with you, ask if they are free.... CALL and TALK TO THEM! Otherwise it's just like playing answering machine tag. (Although some people - like my daughter - don't usually answer anyhow.) sigh...
DaSkullCrusher Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 (edited) I agree with calling. Texting has ruined a lot. Doesn't mean a woman won't ignore the call and text you back. Edited April 25, 2013 by DaSkullCrusher
FrustratedGuy91 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 But did she actually flake? It seems to me she said no, instead.
NYC-BigKat Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Girls change their mind constantly and act on their emotions, not logic (it's called "chick logic"). I would completely ignore this and just treat it as if it never happened. My uncle & friend told me the same thing. I guess thats why they cant ever get serious with any girls huh? My uncle even said lots of girls/women are a bunch of kids sometimes. I remember when he said this in front of my aunts last yr at a bbq they all got so so mad with him. I really wonder u know .
DaSkullCrusher Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Is the concept of an actual phone call unheard of anymore? Would erase a lot of assumption and misunderstandings. Just saying... I don't think these happen anymore.
KraftDinner Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Girls change their mind constantly and act on their emotions, not logic (it's called "chick logic"). I would completely ignore this and just treat it as if it never happened. You've clearly never dated any men. People are emotional. You have a lot to learn, young feller.
outsidethebox Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 not keeping phone nearby for texts and calls for a girl you're supposed to be caring about is the same as not caring about them. Yes, she cancelled but that doesn't mean you wouldn't want to text back and forth a little. She might have asked to see about coming over. Not answering is like you cancelled, I'm pouting and not talking to you. Games? If you see this stuff as a game, you have lost. She's a person who said something came up, back her up emotionally and act like a partner.
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