chimom Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 I made an enormous mistake of talking to a mutual friend (mine and the ex-gf). I pressed for information (yes, very stupid) and found out things I really, really did not want to know about why I was dumped. Apparently feelings were never mutual -- and there are other things too that I can't bring myself to talk about. WTF, people. I am freaking out. I have reviewed all our emails and have played back out time together and... this is so embarrassing... I totally loved how affectionate and into me she seemed, the sweet things she said to me, and just completely believed it when she told me the breakup was because of bad timing, her own issues, etc. I am devastated. Talk me down and tell me this is okay.
todreaminblue Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 I made an enormous mistake of talking to a mutual friend (mine and the ex-gf). I pressed for information (yes, very stupid) and found out things I really, really did not want to know about why I was dumped. Apparently feelings were never mutual -- and there are other things too that I can't bring myself to talk about. WTF, people. I am freaking out. I have reviewed all our emails and have played back out time together and... this is so embarrassing... I totally loved how affectionate and into me she seemed, the sweet things she said to me, and just completely believed it when she told me the breakup was because of bad timing, her own issues, etc. I am devastated. Talk me down and tell me this is okay. dont believe everything you are told....there may be personal bias in favor of the other friend they have, on why your mutual friend may have said those things....believe in your gut what you feel...and stop reading past emails and complexing and delaying the healing..mutual friends should be out of the loop in regards to a relationship as they are friends to both and cannot be objective or neutral, awkward is the word......good luck...best wishes..stay strong and heal.........it is going to be ok...............everything will be ok...hugs.........deb
OwlSoul Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Ergh, bro...When you break-up you should erase all the messages and emails related to your ex, photographs, through away or put away the gifts. The fact that you keep playbacking what went wrong, read all the old messages just sends the false signals to your brain. You'll find it hard to move on.
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