SadSadLady82 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 In a nutshell, my ex and I broke up 4 months ago after 3 years of an on and off relationship. After 5 weeks of NC he called to tell me he was sorry for what he did & said he loved me & always will & if you ever need me again I will be here for you. That night I saw him & brought up my issues. Pushy I know, but what happened was not going to be swept under the rug!! Needless to say he got what he wanted & was annoyed with me by the next day. We talked a few times after & he just seemed annoyed. Last of the conversation was "I apologized but not to have this turn into a friendship or anything else & I will talk to you about what you need just so you move on"! How nice of you...ok I'll spill my guys now. I feel like he words are saying one thing but his actions are saying something else. I believe that his contact was just to make sure I was still on the back burner. Or was it to resolve guilt & everything else to move on? Please give me some polite opinions here. Thanks!
OwlSoul Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Follow the opinion of your gut feeling. It is normally right about relationships related stuff.
iouaname Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Definitely follow his actions and ignore his words. This was the problem that I had with my ex. He told me that he wanted to see what would happen in the future, that he wanted to stay good friends, that he would 'be there for me.' And honestly? He stuck to none of them. He decided eventually that he didn't see a future with me, and I was left devastated. Then he decided he didn't want to be there for me or be friends right now, and I felt rejected all over again. If I had listened to what his actions said from the start (which were: I really don't mean that much to him anymore), I would have saved myself a lot of time and embarrassment. Listen to the actions.
Author SadSadLady82 Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 Iouaname... How long did that go on for before he decided to go for good? My gut tells me that it is over for now... That is all I feel at this time. I kind of want to go away right now too. Maybe this will help him to realize I am done with his games.
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