Janesays Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Thanks for all your advice and support. I did just what you suggest last night. I'm hoping if she's not interested she will have decency to make that clear instead of not responding. But then her non-response will show me what sort of a person she is and might make things easier for me to move on. Please keep us posted on what happens next!
DaSkullCrusher Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 It is her way of rejecting you, but she doesn't have the balls to say it
Jefezen Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 If it's a face-to-face conversation or a phone call it might actually mean that she has to check her schedule. If it's text/email then she could've done that before replying, so I would expect it to be a poor way of saying "no", but it could also mean that she has to check her schedule. Probably "no", though, in my experience. I asked a woman out to New Years. We hadn't been dating for very long, so I said it was fine if she wanted to bring any of her friends along too. She replied that she'd have to first check with her cousin/best friend first before getting back to me. Two days went by and I didn't hear anything. When she finally answered (via Facebook), she said, "Sure, we shouldn't be alone on New Years." My interpretation: she wanted to see if she could find something else to do on New Years and tepidly accepted my invitation only after Plans A, B, and C failed. If she really had to check with her cousin/friend for whatever reason, she could have done that the same day.
Author Springwater Posted April 28, 2013 Author Posted April 28, 2013 Please keep us posted on what happens next! What happened next: I asked her whether we can meet on Sunday (today) and she responded by saying that she can only meet for an hour or two. We met and spent the whole afternoon having lunch and going out for desserts/coffee afterwards to a different restaurant. So, actually, she had a lot more than 1-2 hours to spare! The date went well. We both expressed that we like each other. But, get a load of this: when I asked her if we can get together again some time next weekend, she said she may not be available. She has a regular 9 to 5, Monday-Friday job. And during the conversations we had (we had 3 dates thus far), she seemed to indicate that her weekends are usually pretty open. So it's hard think that she would be completely unavailable on either Saturday and Sunday. I don't understand why she's forcing me ask her again later when she likes me (at least she says she does). I wonder if she's playing games or seeing another guy? Any thoughts on this lady?
tricolors Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 What happened next: I asked her whether we can meet on Sunday (today) and she responded by saying that she can only meet for an hour or two. We met and spent the whole afternoon having lunch and going out for desserts/coffee afterwards to a different restaurant. So, actually, she had a lot more than 1-2 hours to spare! The date went well. We both expressed that we like each other. But, get a load of this: when I asked her if we can get together again some time next weekend, she said she may not be available. She has a regular 9 to 5, Monday-Friday job. And during the conversations we had (we had 3 dates thus far), she seemed to indicate that her weekends are usually pretty open. So it's hard think that she would be completely unavailable on either Saturday and Sunday. I don't understand why she's forcing me ask her again later when she likes me (at least she says she does). I wonder if she's playing games or seeing another guy? Any thoughts on this lady? Some people genuinely have a lot going on. I wouldn't overthink it too much.
Revolver Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 Women go out of their way to clear time for guys they really like. :laugh:for example Ryan gosling going up to a woman and saying "Hey you want to go out on friday", and her saying "Um I have to check my schedule" 1
sillyanswer Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 Any thoughts on this lady? It sounds like she's bad at saying that she isn't interested and she's so weak-willed as to let you persuade her to go on a date. Dating shouldn't be that hard. Find someone who has an easier schedule (ie, someone who likes you more).
todreaminblue Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 Hi Hope I can get some advice. If a girl stalls (by saying things like I have to check my schedule) when you ask her out for another date after a first or second date, what does this mean? Does it mean 'I have no interest in going out with you again'? if had a situation where i said to a guy ill check my schedule......i am not interested...i dont have a schedule.....if i truly liked the guy....i would make my "schedule suit his...if i had one......i juggle...catastrophically most of the time....but i am still kickin...no one hates me yet.....deb
ScreamingTrees Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 Women go out of their way to clear time for guys they really like. :laugh:for example Ryan gosling going up to a woman and saying "Hey you want to go out on friday", and her saying "Um I have to check my schedule" "Oh my god! Ryan, let's go out right now! Wow, you're even taller than I'd imagined! I'll even treat you! Ice cream? Smoothies? Chinese take-out?"
SJC2008 Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 What happened next: I asked her whether we can meet on Sunday (today) and she responded by saying that she can only meet for an hour or two. We met and spent the whole afternoon having lunch and going out for desserts/coffee afterwards to a different restaurant. So, actually, she had a lot more than 1-2 hours to spare! The date went well. We both expressed that we like each other. But, get a load of this: when I asked her if we can get together again some time next weekend, she said she may not be available. She has a regular 9 to 5, Monday-Friday job. And during the conversations we had (we had 3 dates thus far), she seemed to indicate that her weekends are usually pretty open. So it's hard think that she would be completely unavailable on either Saturday and Sunday. I don't understand why she's forcing me ask her again later when she likes me (at least she says she does). I wonder if she's playing games or seeing another guy? Any thoughts on this lady? Stop asking her out on the end of dates man! I don't advocate game playing/rules but some are good guidelines. You're robbing her of that moment when she hopes you call. Instead she sees some guy foaming at the mouth! Have you made a move? How old are yall? FWIW: I HATE the term I have to check my schedule and I'd feel like a tool if I said it!
Janesays Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 What happened next: I asked her whether we can meet on Sunday (today) and she responded by saying that she can only meet for an hour or two. We met and spent the whole afternoon having lunch and going out for desserts/coffee afterwards to a different restaurant. So, actually, she had a lot more than 1-2 hours to spare! The date went well. We both expressed that we like each other. But, get a load of this: when I asked her if we can get together again some time next weekend, she said she may not be available. She has a regular 9 to 5, Monday-Friday job. And during the conversations we had (we had 3 dates thus far), she seemed to indicate that her weekends are usually pretty open. So it's hard think that she would be completely unavailable on either Saturday and Sunday. I don't understand why she's forcing me ask her again later when she likes me (at least she says she does). I wonder if she's playing games or seeing another guy? Any thoughts on this lady? Maybe she is multidating. Maybe she has a big family issue. Maybe a friend is getting married and she's the maid of honor. It doesn't matter. As long as she keeps going out with you, she's interested. Don't let the others in this thread tell you different. A lot of them are just jealous because they haven't been on a date themselves for years. Yeah, some girls WILL drop EVERYTHING for a man if they like them. But their are other girls who are responsible and true to their prior commitments even in the face of Ryan Gosling. This should make you happy. At least you know she's not the type of flake on YOU when you two do have plans to get together.
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