Springwater Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Hi Hope I can get some advice. If a girl stalls (by saying things like I have to check my schedule) when you ask her out for another date after a first or second date, what does this mean? Does it mean 'I have no interest in going out with you again'?
Jbum5 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 It could be that she doesn't want to make any promises that she can't keep so she wants to verify her schedule first. It could be that she isn't interested in going out with you again. Either way, it's all speculation. Do yourself a favor, be a man and do the right thing - don't over think it and continue on with your life as it was without her.
jennifer4 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 If I say that to a guy, I'm not interested. End of story. 3
Treasa Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Let me put it this way: If she were into you but truly had to check her schedule, she'd smile brightly and say, "I'd love to! Can you hold on a sec so I can make sure I'm free at that time?" 4
Silly24 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 I guess it might depend on her age and schedule. I'm a single mom in her 40s with a busy career. I would need to check my schedule. With that said, If I wasn't interested...I'd tell you then. 1
TheGuard13 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 This is one of those "not enough info" things. She's either a very busy person or wants you to think she is.
Poppy fields Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 If I wanted to go out with a guy, I would sometimes say f.vck the schedule. Unless it was work related, but I would have a good idea about that in advance, so I really wouldn't have to check it. Some people would have to though.
d0620 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 It means if I can't find anything better to do then I will hit you up
irc333 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 This is one of those "not enough info" things. She's either a very busy person or wants you to think she is. Actually, that's PLENTY of info....when a woman says "I have to check my schedule", she'll never get back to you. 2
Feelin Frisky Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 (edited) It means you don't rate above nuisance. But I guess there's hope if you can accept that and make a more favorable opinion somehow if you interact with her over time or see her around. Other than that, it's a sign that it ain't happening. "Hmmmm, let's see, date with this guy on the 28th or address the UN General Assembly about climate change?". I know I'd pick the climate change address because I'm up on it over a date because i would definitely see that as a big career thing, but if I gave a crap about the person asking to see me again, I sure wouldn't say let me see if I can pencil you in for some face time if I'm free. You MAKE time for what matters, at least I do. Edited April 25, 2013 by Feelin Frisky 1
TheGuard13 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Actually, that's PLENTY of info....when a woman says "I have to check my schedule", she'll never get back to you. Not in my experience. Ah well.
Treasa Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 I might not remember to go pee if it's not on my Outlook calendar. I keep EVERYTHING on there. That being said, I also have a smart phone. Oh look! I can check my calendar in two seconds. I guess what I'm saying is that she might really have to check her schedule, but if it's been a day, she's probably trying to blow you off or isn't interested enough in you. 1
Author Springwater Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 When did you ask her? It was asked at the end of the second date. Is it always better to simply move on when a girl says something like she has to check her schedule? My level of interest in this girl is rather high. Would it be ok to ask her again or would that be absolute No-No?
Treasa Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 I missed it, but when was the end of the second date? If she said she has to check her schedule and then didn't get back to you, and it's been a day or more, I'd say move on.
carhill Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 When girl likes you, her schedule, and your place in it, is memorized. 2
aussietigerwolf Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 a friend of mine doesn't date because she is too busy but... if she did then she'd have to check her schedule and it could take her a day to get back to you.
charlietheginger Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 when a person says i need to check my schedule. Its usually means..... They need to check their schedule. it does not take a rocket scientist To make a paper plane In other words dont complicate things by thinking to much
edgygirl Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 In my last two jobs I would say the same as her... even if I was really interested. I was REALLY busy and couldn't really foresee upcoming meetings in more than 2 days advance. Do yourself a favor and don't over think it. Ask her out again, be a man... and a gentleman. Sometimes work can be a bit overwhelming and we professional women like a man who is not intimidated by our busy schedule. Good luck 1
Radu Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 OP, how old is she and what does she do ? If it's a college girl, you've just been blown off. If it's someone who works 70hs/ week, you probably haven't been blown off, but you are not at the top of her priorities. It could also be that she's playing games with you, but low chances.
Gottabestrong Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 It depends. If you ask that at the end of the date and she does not have her schedule with her, it might just mean that she needs to check. It also might mean that she does not want to say no to your face. If you asked her out via phone, text, etc. and she said that but did not get back to you within a few hours, she is probably not too interested. In my case, I have a busy schedule and also try to get more involved in meetup groups. I don't know by heart what evening what event is on, I actually DO need to check my schedule. So if you ask me when I am not at my PC, I can't give you an answer right there, but if I can check my schedule I will get back to a guy quickly if I am interested. Bottom line, the only thing that matters is how long it took her to get back to you after she said that.
sillyanswer Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Hi Hope I can get some advice. If a girl stalls (by saying things like I have to check my schedule) when you ask her out for another date after a first or second date, what does this mean? Does it mean 'I have no interest in going out with you again'? If it's a face-to-face conversation or a phone call it might actually mean that she has to check her schedule. If it's text/email then she could've done that before replying, so I would expect it to be a poor way of saying "no", but it could also mean that she has to check her schedule. Probably "no", though, in my experience.
Janesays Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 With me, it meant I had to check my schedule. Since I own my own business, my schedule changes every week, heck, sometimes every day. I try really hard not to schedule things on top of each other which is something I ALWAYS do if I don't check first. I'd send her a text/email saying, "Let me know what days/times you're available next week if you want to get together!" If she's interested, she'll say, "Monday night, Wed all day, and Friday evening." That's what a busy girl says when she still wants to make time for someone. If she's NOT interested, she probably won't respond or she'll hem and haw and how this week is such a nightmare and she'll get back to you someday....and you have your answer. 1
Author Springwater Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 With me, it meant I had to check my schedule. Since I own my own business, my schedule changes every week, heck, sometimes every day. I try really hard not to schedule things on top of each other which is something I ALWAYS do if I don't check first. I'd send her a text/email saying, "Let me know what days/times you're available next week if you want to get together!" If she's interested, she'll say, "Monday night, Wed all day, and Friday evening." That's what a busy girl says when she still wants to make time for someone. If she's NOT interested, she probably won't respond or she'll hem and haw and how this week is such a nightmare and she'll get back to you someday....and you have your answer. Thanks for all your advice and support. I did just what you suggest last night. I'm hoping if she's not interested she will have decency to make that clear instead of not responding. But then her non-response will show me what sort of a person she is and might make things easier for me to move on. 1
grkBoy Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Hi Hope I can get some advice. If a girl stalls (by saying things like I have to check my schedule) when you ask her out for another date after a first or second date, what does this mean? Does it mean 'I have no interest in going out with you again'? I'd first assume she's not interested. Usually if she wants you to call her in a few days to set up hard plans, then give her the benefit of the doubt. Call. If you get her voice mail, leave a message. If she doesn't call back in a day, move on. It proves she wasn't interested. I know some would say "move on" and not even call in the first place, but too often in our busy world it actually ends up being the truth that he/she needed to make sure they didn't promise anyone else that day (family, friends, etc).
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