jayy23 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 so im curious as to what people's opinions are on (the one) how many people actually blv that there is one person in the world for everyone ? and is it possible for someone to find the one and then the relationship is ended one way or another to then need to live the rest of your life knowing you had the one but now they dont want you so all you can do is accept it and live with the fact that the person you're ment to be with is with someone else. I've been apart from my ex for over a year now and still think about her. when I was with her I considered her to be the one and if she hadn't of left me I would have asked her to marry me at some point. I was with her for nearly 5years then she left out the blue. I've been with other girs since my ex and not one even comes close in the personality department. im not sayin I blv that there is one person for everyone thats a bit far fetched but there is times I still feel like im ment to be with my ex and no one else.
todreaminblue Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 so im curious as to what people's opinions are on (the one) how many people actually blv that there is one person in the world for everyone ? and is it possible for someone to find the one and then the relationship is ended one way or another to then need to live the rest of your life knowing you had the one but now they dont want you so all you can do is accept it and live with the fact that the person you're ment to be with is with someone else. I've been apart from my ex for over a year now and still think about her. when I was with her I considered her to be the one and if she hadn't of left me I would have asked her to marry me at some point. I was with her for nearly 5years then she left out the blue. I've been with other girs since my ex and not one even comes close in the personality department. im not sayin I blv that there is one person for everyone thats a bit far fetched but there is times I still feel like im ment to be with my ex and no one else. I think here on earth many people touch your life and its all meant to be....some of them touch you deeply some of them will of the whisps who fly away before you even feel that touch...i believe there are many ones, many soul mates and that you are not meant to be alone....that this life path we were given is a journey that we have to experience pain on to truly appreciate the joy when we feel it....just like the woman who you thought was the ONE ....some woman will eventually feel you are the one for her....and maybe that one is the one you are meant to be with because you feel the same way ......what will happen ...will happen....and you will never be sure of when where why...just that it has to be right and at the right time and place....and you have to believe that it can happen and just let it happen..there are always ones.....until those ones meet then there are....two...smilin..simple logic...kind of...deb 1
KatZee Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 No. There is no "one." Instead, you have many "ones." Depending on what stage of life you're in. You may have a true love as a teenager, those relationships normally don't last as you're growing up. So then you may have your young adult "one" and you may think you'll marry this person. Only to find out that you also outgrew THAT relationship. So now you have another "one" and this may be the person you marry. Even that isn't a guarantee as over half of marriages end in divorce. So now you're middle age and you meet another "one." People out grow other people, and out grow relationships. 6
DavidSoBased Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 I believe there is no "one." Just a bunch of percentages like .90 and whatnot.
JourneyLady Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Having been through two marriages and an assorted small pack of relationships... here's my opinion. Relationships are how we learn, how we grow, and often, how we grow up. I do believe in Soulmates -- however, I don't believe there is just one for everyone. Soulmates are those people who cause us to grow and mature the most. They are not always good in a relationship, but you will learn from them. Sometimes even siblings or your parents can be your soulmates. If you experience a relationship where the person affects you in a strong way when other people would not while doing the same thing, they are likely to be a soulmate. As for the "one". We grow up with an idea, sometimes vague, sometimes very detailed, of the person we want to spend our lives with. (Like in the movie "Practical Magic", she was very detailed and laid it all out.) If we meet the person that is so close to our imagination, it feels like "the one". If we never meet anyone else that dovetails our imagination so thoroughly, it will always feel like they were "the one". There -may- be someone else on the planet that fits that ideal, but we may never meet them. There will be "at least" one. But we can blow it by misunderstanding, their having a different "one" concept than us, immaturity, circumstances or any number of things. I do also believe that we have lived before, and I do believe that there are often agreements to meet with each other in this life. Whatever the outcome is, these are lessons we are to learn. If we refuse to learn the lessons within the relationship with that person (or afterwards) we often lose them for good. So that's my opinion on it. 1
KatZee Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 (edited) I do also believe that we have lived before, and I do believe that there are often agreements to meet with each other in this life. A psychic medium told me that my last boyfriend was my brother in a past life and it was why we just "got" each other, or could sit in silence and know what we were thinking. And it was really weird b/c before I even had that reading, my ex had this inside joke where he'd call me "sis." And then when I had that reading it cemented it. It was creepy b/c although we are from different families we have identical birth marks on our faces, and behind the ear. So I can believe it. He was also shown to be one of my soulmates, and since he thrusted me so far forward in my own personal growth, I see it. Too bad in this lifetime he was reincarnated as a raging dildo. Edited April 25, 2013 by KatZee 2
JourneyLady Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Funny, my dad used to call me "sis" too... As far as personal growth, yes - and they can push your buttons like nobody's business! Beyond that, I think soul mates more often than most, project each other's traits onto each other quicker and fast than most other relationships. But we all want our soul mates even with all of that and it takes a lot more experience and convincing that it's not going to work with them. How strange is that? A psychic medium told me that my last boyfriend was my brother in a past life and it was why we just "got" each other, or could sit in silence and know what we were thinking. And it was really weird b/c before I even had that reading, my ex had this inside joke where he'd call me "sis." And then when I had that reading it cemented it. It was creepy b/c although we are from different families we have identical birth marks on our faces, and behind the ear. So I can believe it. He was also shown to be one of my soulmates, and since he thrusted me so far forward in my own personal growth, I see it. Too bad in this lifetime he was reincarnated as a raging dildo.
EmptyWalls Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Too bad in this lifetime he was reincarnated as a raging dildo. LOL that was funny. I do or used to but still do..... (yeah) believe in the one, how me any my ex came together I have no clue. I mean I know how but where we grew up and how our lifes came together its almost like we were destined to meet. I hope psychic's are pretending because if they aren't I should be dieing real soon.... Maybe its like Mama Gump said "maybe we're all just floating around accidental-like on a breeze".
KatZee Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 As far as personal growth, yes - and they can push your buttons like nobody's business! Beyond that, I think soul mates more often than most, project each other's traits onto each other quicker and fast than most other relationships. But we all want our soul mates even with all of that and it takes a lot more experience and convincing that it's not going to work with them. How strange is that? Yep, pretty much. After my ex and I broke up, I actually came across his StumbleUpon account, and he "liked" something on there when we were still dating. It was something along the lines of, "You can never marry your soulmate. Soulmates are here to push you, show you things about yourself you have never seen. But marriage? No. It's far too painful."
KatZee Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 how me any my ex came together I have no clue. I mean I know how but where we grew up and how our lifes came together its almost like we were destined to meet. Same with me and my ex. Everything had pretty much lined up perfectly, and he approached me out of no where. The first time our eyes met I heard a voice in my head very clear. That voice said, "He's it." What "it" was, I will never know for sure, but I imagine I had just been approached by one of my soulmates of this lifetime. I hope psychic's are pretending because if they aren't I should be dieing real soon.... Psychic mediums are very real. I've had experience with a lot of them, and most are phony, but there are people that possess a real gift. The thing is, you shouldn't refer to them as "psychics." I prefer the term "medium" meaning that they can communicate with those who have passed over. Some mediums claim to be "psychic" meaning that they can see future events, but it's honestly a little irresponsible for anyone to be claiming they can tell you what's going to happen in the future, because they can't. Psychics may get impressions or glimpses of what may happen in your future, but the catch is that we all have free will. We can all change our paths with the snap of a finger. What a psychic will see when he's reading you, can be completely changed within the next 15 minutes if you make a choice that takes you off that path. Also, a psychic medium is never going to say to you, "you're going to die soon." That's the trait of an inexperienced cold-reader and not a true psychic medium.
richard9 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Great thread! Really helped! Ive always believed in the one up until the girl I thought was the one threw me away like I meant nothing. Now I hope and pray that there is someone else out there for me. I think I almost acultised (that a word?) myself into believing she wss the one. Two years of that solid belief is very hard to break. Still kind of hurts that she wasnt the one, and feels strange to write those words, but ive got to now change my way of thinking and believe there are others out there, or resign myself to been alone for the rest of my life, which im not prepared to do!
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