mtnbiker3000 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Ha! I have recently been thinking that I am now so scared of women because of what can happen as a result of being with one again. Ridiculous I know, but in my current state, I would rather stick my head in a hornets nest than get dumped again. Obviously, I know this feeling will pass, but now when I see a good looking woman, I think, man she could/would kill me Anyone else feel this way in their current state??
youngnlove89 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Ha! I have recently been thinking that I am now so scared of women because of what can happen as a result of being with one again. Ridiculous I know, but in my current state, I would rather stick my head in a hornets nest than get dumped again. Obviously, I know this feeling will pass, but now when I see a good looking woman, I think, man she could/would kill me Anyone else feel this way in their current state?? Absolutely not. My ex lost the best thing he had. Now, I'm ready to offer it to someone else who appreciates it! Think positive.
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 Of course. But, easier said than done in my current state of affairs. Really in a low spot at this moment... Really just making light of it more than anything. Trying to make myself laugh
todreaminblue Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Ha! I have recently been thinking that I am now so scared of women because of what can happen as a result of being with one again. Ridiculous I know, but in my current state, I would rather stick my head in a hornets nest than get dumped again. Obviously, I know this feeling will pass, but now when I see a good looking woman, I think, man she could/would kill me Anyone else feel this way in their current state?? i used to feel this way for a very long time ....my heart gets hurt easily........but i decided to open it up....cant be worse than some of the things i have gone through in my life....all that could happen is i could die which i shighly unlikely....to die of a broken heart....and then i get to go to the spirit world and hang out with my uber cool relatives...so all is cool with love......thats the way i look at it now.......deb
youngnlove89 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 i used to feel this way for a very long time ....my heart gets hurt easily........but i decided to open it up....cant be worse than some of the things i have gone through in my life....all that could happen is i could die which i shighly unlikely....to die of a broken heart....and then i get to go to the spirit world and hang out with my uber cool relatives...so all is cool with love......thats the way i look at it now.......deb deb, you sound like such a sweet person.
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 (edited) i used to feel this way for a very long time ....my heart gets hurt easily........but i decided to open it up....cant be worse than some of the things i have gone through in my life....all that could happen is i could die which i shighly unlikely....to die of a broken heart....and then i get to go to the spirit world and hang out with my uber cool relatives...so all is cool with love......thats the way i look at it now.......deb Well, you are stronger than me, because this hurts worse than death . I think, in general, men have a harder time with emotional trauma because we are not as in touch with our emotions. We are not used to dealing with them. So, then when we have to, we basically fall apart. Us guys, know how to deal with physical pain much better. You ladies are a little more familiar with your emotions. Right? Edited April 24, 2013 by mtnbiker3000
ThatJustHappened Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 BOO!!!! Did I scare you? Sorry...I had to...
LostOne1 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 I guess it's one reason guys become players? They realize it's easier just to go from one girl to the next and not cry or worry about the ex.
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 BOO!!!! Did I scare you? Sorry...I had to... Ha! Nice one
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 I guess it's one reason guys become players? They realize it's easier just to go from one girl to the next and not cry or worry about the ex. Makes sense. But I have never been nor will ever be a 'player'. Don't think I could even if I knew how.
TheFriend Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 I am terrified!!! I feel like i have a blast proof structure surrounding my heart right not that no woman will be able to get through for a good long while! It sucks!! I'm right there with you buddy!
EmptyWalls Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 It will come down in time and you will be ready to open up. Dont give up by no means. Shes out there just got make our way through the crowd. I try to be nice and courteous. Talk with women and LISTEN and observe tone, body language, if they are sober, etc. For me its personality if you dont have that I dont even bother. I interact with other women but by no means am seeking one atm. Still believe in her and I will wait on her.
Am4Real Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Depending on what happened in the last moments of the RS leading to the break up and "what you know or find out" that were different than what you thought about your EX (i.e. lies, cheating, deception, etc) . It's doesn't come down to being "dumped" (being dumped in an outcome), it's a matter of trust (this is a living breathing state of being every day). Fully loving somebody is natural; fully trusting someone is not. It takes much letting go and exposure to risk and hurt to truly trust the words of a partner when many have learned there is an entirely different mindset at play in the heads of our partners. Make sense?
ThatJustHappened Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Makes sense. But I have never been nor will ever be a 'player'. Don't think I could even if I knew how. Good. Don't. But I'm sure you could figure out how if you really wanted to...:bunny:
OwlSoul Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Ha! I have recently been thinking that I am now so scared of women RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAWRRRR! Try dicks then Kidding.
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAWRRRR! Try dicks then Kidding. Not likely!! Just probably become a hermit in a cave somewhere instead
OwlSoul Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Not likely!! Just probably become a hermit in a cave somewhere instead The biggest courage is to be vulnerable.
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