NYC-BigKat Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 The same girl with Emily I met last weekend told her that I was a really nice guy & stuff so I decided to ask her on a date & she said yes. I made the date for tuesday & she said ok so when tuesday came she cancels & says lets do it tomorrow (today) so I say ok & she cancels again just now when we was to meet up at 7:30. I dont know what to do right now. Did she lose interest for no reason? Why's she cancelling & not giving it a chance all of a sudden ? Am I being too nice?
Treasa Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 You are being too nice annnnnd....I wouldn't call her back. That's just me, though. I don't have time for flakiness, unless there's a really good reason. 2
Drseussgrrl Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 She just sounds rude. Canceling the day of and at the last minute? She's not that keen, man, sorry.
jennifer4 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 wow, that sucks. I say ignore her, it's not worth your time.
phineas Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 woman flakes on me last min someone better be dead or dying or an equally good excuse for waiting until the last min. or she don't get even get an acknowledgment from me. I used to put up with it but it seemed every time they did this, I'd get a random text half-way through the night looking to see if I was still hooked. To be honest, i've never had a last min. flaker do anything but waste my time.
Jbum5 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Let's not be ignorant of the fact that she's likely too nice to reject you outright, but doesn't want to date [you] at the same time. Be a man, do the right thing and move on. 1
SJC2008 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 She's flaking until you get the hint. She's being selfish in that she can't handle the 5 seconds of "awkwardness" and politely declining your offer so she lies and says yes and flakes until you give up. This is known as passive aggressive behavior and you should avoid women like this like the plague! Loveshack disclaimer: Men flake too and there are passive aggressive men to and they should be avoided like the plague too!
Author NYC-BigKat Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 She's flaking until you get the hint. She's being selfish in that she can't handle the 5 seconds of "awkwardness" and politely declining your offer so she lies and says yes and flakes until you give up. This is known as passive aggressive behavior and you should avoid women like this like the plague! Loveshack disclaimer: Men flake too and there are passive aggressive men to and they should be avoided like the plague too! True yea but it seems that girls are mostly flakers much much more. Why is that? And her reason for cancelling was she had a emergency at a hospital & she'll text me another time. I'm just really so so tired of this same junk .
crude Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Obviously the ball is firmly in her court. If you don't want to give up the slight chance that she's interested, then text her that if she's interested, it's her turn to plan a date, ask you out, and need I say it, pay. If she doesn't respond, just move on like she never existed in your life.
SJC2008 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 A good rule of thumb is that if a woman cancels a date AND doesn't offer an alternative down to the date and time, she's not interested. 1
MrCastle Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 If we've gone out before I don't mind a flake. If you're flaking on a first date that is the last time you will hear from me ever again.
outsidethebox Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 The so called surefire way for guys to get laid OLD someone posted called for two just like this. Maybe you're about to get lucky.
BluEyeL Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Don't go out with someone who cancels more than once. Move on to the next, this one will just waste your time.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 If we've gone out before I don't mind a flake. If you're flaking on a first date that is the last time you will hear from me ever again. How come u dont mind a girl cancelling dates with u after u went out with her already? Isn't it still bad that she's doing that to u?
MrCastle Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 How come u dont mind a girl cancelling dates with u after u went out with her already? Isn't it still bad that she's doing that to u? It's different psychologically. Flake when we've went out before usually is understandable. There really is a reason why she cancelled. A flake before we've even met = really? Of all days you had something come up, today was the day? I call bullsh*t. Of course the situation varies depending on what excuse they give for flaking but that's been my experience.
cdeyoung Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 The "you're a really nice guy" generally translates to "I am not attracted to you". She is probably very nice, herself; in fact, so nice that she did not reject you, but is letting you down gently by canceling dates at last minute. If a woman wants to see you, she will make time for you... no matter what. She would not cancel two dates in a row if she was genuinely interested in you. Move on. 2
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