mtnbiker3000 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 (edited) So yesterday was rough because our landlord called and said he was super pissed at the condition of our rental house. This made me very stressed out. I texted the ex about it, and proceeded into a long string of angry/defensive/accusatory texting. Man, now I was even more stressed. The most stress I think I have ever felt. Between trading nasty-grams with the ex, and finding out we will be losing most/all of our deposit just sent me in to a tailspin. Not a good day! I will admit that my first couple of texts were kind of accusatory towards her, and she did respond with some defensive, then offensive things to me as well. She claims I was blaming her for losing the deposit, which it may have come across as. Anyway, here is what I want to say, but I won't tell her, just you guys I have stayed out of contact with you not to annoy you, hurt you, punish you or get back with you. I did it for me. It is the only way I can move through this and move on with my life. You are making me out to be an a-hole for doing what I need to do for myself. You have your way of dealing with this and this is my way. I thought you would understand this… You're said you're sad because you helped me move but I didn't respond to your unrelated text and I didn't help you in return? That's BS. That is a manipulative statement designed to hurt me/make me feel bad and I don't appreciate it. I did help you the same day you helped me. I still have a blood blister under my thumb nail to prove it. And that day, I also told you I would continue to help you move later if you wanted me to, and you said you didn't have too much stuff and you would probably just have friends/family help if you needed it. You claim you spent all this time working on the house? First of all, why clean the leaves from the flower/rock beds (for hours?). Pointless! And, I told you 2 or 3 weeks ago he was hiring someone for only $100 to clean the whole house. Why waste your time cleaning then? I don't get it. Are you trying to prove you deserve more deposit return than I do? All I was expecting you to do was take care of mowing the front lawn once (which I have done many times) and trying to repair the back lawn from the damage of the trampoline to the best of your ability, which you said you would do multiple times. That's it. Not spend hours cleaning things that don't need to be cleaned!! So, yes, I am a little upset at the way you handled this and I do feel like it is your actions that are causing us to lose money. I think I am bothered on two levels. One, that now I have to deal with the landlord (whom I like) and the idea of losing $600 (each) and also the fact that now my ex thinks I am a jerk/a-hole. I know this shouldn't bother me, but it does!! I want her to think of me well for some reason. Hoping this will pass… Arrrggghhh. I am so stressed out right now, I can be barely function. It's gettin' bad!! Oh and broke almost 40 days NC too!!!! Edited April 24, 2013 by mtnbiker3000
ThatJustHappened Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Yuck. Want me to dance? I would do it for you..and it would make you laugh... Just let me know.
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 Yuck. Want me to dance? I would do it for you..and it would make you laugh... Just let me know. Na, that won't be necessary. I am feeling a little better now. I realize I am hyper-sensitive, and I think it was just a 'perfect storm' that has now died down a little... Thanks though
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