BLS Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 (edited) I'm currently a High-school senior, my girlfriend is as well. We dated for about 2.5 years. About a month ago she dumped me because she had lost interest in me as a boyfriend. I played it off at first but broke a few days later, begging for her back. This repeated about 2 more times until we get to this point in time, where I am on day 8 NC. However, I am have to sit right next to her in my English class. I explained to the teacher the situation (as she usually made comments regarding us as a couple) so that she would stop. She understood and agreed. Fortunately this is the only time of my day that I have to see her, but unfortunately for me she (the teacher) assigned myself, my ex, 2 other girls and a boy who was always friends w/ my ex (and who is currently in a long term relationship of his own) to the same group. Eventually we will have to act out a short skit together. Today, while we were in our groups I saw my girlfriend and the other guy in the group being flirty with each other (in the course of our relationship I had addressed how they talk and act a bit too friendly and how I am uncomfortable with it). He consistently tried to take the "in charge" role of the group (we both were like this, essentially if we both agreed on something it went) It made me sick to my stomach (the apparent flirting). I have stopped looking at her social media (since NC began) and told the teacher that this was a very poor decision. She apologized and said she had not even considered it. I am graduating high school in 2 months, how am I supposed to cope with this situation? I hate half of my day because I dread going to that class, it is making me miserable. Edited April 24, 2013 by BLS
thewrongonee Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 The damage has been done man, you gave her all the power of the relationship by begging her to take you back. It will be hard working in the same group as her especially if shes flirting with someone. The only way to salvage this situation is to not show ANY emotions towards her. Act confident, contribute to the group, heck even flirt with any girls if you have the chance. The goal is to show her that you are fine and capable of being on your own.
aeren944 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Yep, might just have to suck it up and make it last for 2 months. Once High School's over, everything changes... 1
Author BLS Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 The damage has been done man, you gave her all the power of the relationship by begging her to take you back. Yep, totally aware of this and I hate myself for it.
CarrieT Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 You want to get to her and royally piss her off? Be as adult and professional about the assignment as you can. Don't show any hurt or annoyance at her antics. Just WORK and trudge through. It is only two months and she'll be the one questioning her decision by the end of it. 2
Author BLS Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 Act confident, contribute to the group, heck even flirt with any girls if you have the chance. The goal is to show her that you are fine and capable of being on your own. I have been trying to do this every day, haven't done too bad. It annoys me everyday seeing her, especially when she's happy (which she usually seems to be) and ESPECIALLY when I see anything that could ever be translated as flirtatious. Nice response, thanks.
Author BLS Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 It is only two months and she'll be the one questioning her decision by the end of it. Gonna be rough, I'm guessing that's unavoidable. I have to take my days by the hour at this point (mood wise). I am extremely curious as to weather or not she will contact me during the summer or post high school... think she will? I didn't really include much details our relationship here as I thought that would be kinda boring, but I can answer any questions if you guys think it might help you formulate advice. Thanks for the reply
CarrieT Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 I am extremely curious as to weather or not she will contact me during the summer or post high school... think she will? Honestly, you need to get to a point where you don't care... And - I can guarantee - before you know it, you won't care because you will have grown and changed so much. Trust us on that one. 2
fiftyofsomethin Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Well, it's nice to see that I'm not the only one who had a breakup right before the end of the year. I will admit that the single most annoying and saddening thing about it is that we will likely always remember each other the way we do now for the rest of our lives. I know that my ex certainly won't want to get in touch with me over the summer or in college. She would just assume it's because I want to get back with her EVEN IF I DON'T. So we sort of just need to accept that there likely won't be much chance of getting back. Don't even get me started on the whole Prom situation...
Author BLS Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 Well, it's nice to see that I'm not the only one who had a breakup right before the end of the year. I will admit that the single most annoying and saddening thing about it is that we will likely always remember each other the way we do now for the rest of our lives. I know that my ex certainly won't want to get in touch with me over the summer or in college. She would just assume it's because I want to get back with her EVEN IF I DON'T. So we sort of just need to accept that there likely won't be much chance of getting back. Don't even get me started on the whole Prom situation... Lucky for me IDC about anything having to do with prom except for who she's going with. However things seem to be working in my favor w/ regard to that.
fiftyofsomethin Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 I don't entirely know what it is, but hell, if you feel good that's great! Good luck buddy!
Derpderpleton Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 I work with my ex atleast 1-2 times a week, so I can relate to your situation. My best advice I can give to you is to just ignore her. Pretend that you're happy, smile alot, joke around with those around you. You absolutely CAN'T let her see you upset, it will only make her feel more strongly about her decision. Don't even acknowledge her presence. Just go about your business and pretend that nothing is the matter. I know it must be difficult to watch her with this other guy, but you just have to reel your emotions in and do this. You can do it, man! I'm rooting for ya. 1
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