cdeyoung Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Well, me and this girl talked for a good week. It escalated pretty quickly -- and by that, I mean we went from exchanging numbers, to texting pretty much constantly back and forth, and talking long into the early morning hours. We made a date for Friday, and it seemed like she had a really good time. During mini golfing, she was all over me, and we were laughing, etc. She kept making it seem as if she wanted to get me home really quickly, and get me in the sack... and made it clear that she wanted more dates. We came back, and had sex... After I kissed her goodnight, she said that she would be happy to have a second date... and that her "specialty blowjobs" are used for the second date... so I would have to wait. I texted her about an hour later and told her that I had a good time, and hoped that she did, as well... she then said "After being with somebody else, I realize that I am not ready for a relationship. Friends?". Um, wtf? She was the one who said "Looking for relationship" on PoF, not to mention she was asking all of these questions about myself, making it seem as if she wanted to get to know me throughout the entire week, etc. She was asking me very personal questions; such as, if I was still seeing other women on PoF, etc. One big thing is that she talked about her ex a bunch... saying how much of a "psycho" he was, which caused her to move back from Victoria, BC all the way to the eastern side of Canada (nova scotia). They broke up two weeks ago... and I feel like I was a rebound. I sent her a few texts, and she eventually stopped responding to them. When I initiated a chat on PoF, she immediately accepted, and said that she enjoyed the sex... blah, blah... but we have not talked at all. Is there any hope for a possible "getting back together" as anything more than just **** buddies, or "friends"? I mean, we seemed to get along pretty well -- she thought my jokes were hilarious, she was always saying how interesting I was, etc. Obviously she was very sexually attracted to me, considering she was groping me in mini putting, etc. What do I do??? Just break contact, and allow her to come to me when she decides to?
SJC2008 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 The number one thing on her mind right now is her pain and how to ease it. It's not about you, or your personality or who you are as a person. It's not real. You're a band aid, a crutch. I've been through the same thing and the one time we had sex wasn't worth the hurt. My advice is chalk it up as an easy lay or subject yourself to getting more invested and hurt by courting a woman whos heart is somewhere else.
Author cdeyoung Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 The number one thing on her mind right now is her pain and how to ease it. It's not about you, or your personality or who you are as a person. It's not real. You're a band aid, a crutch. I've been through the same thing and the one time we had sex wasn't worth the hurt. My advice is chalk it up as an easy lay or subject yourself to getting more invested and hurt by courting a woman whos heart is somewhere else. I understand. But is it possible that, sometime down the road, she'll realize how much actual fun we had together, and she'll try again with me (if I am single)?.. I mean, she was really cute, and seemed to dig me quite a bit... then bam. I talked to an older female coworker about it, and she said that "Well, personally I think she'll get in contact with you.... she clearly needs time to sort out her feelings. Go date people, and let her date... and if she really liked you as much as you said, then perhaps she'll want to try it again with you. The wound is still fresh... give it time to heal. Clearly you had some form of an impression on her; she had sex with you."
SJC2008 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 I understand. But is it possible that, sometime down the road, she'll realize how much actual fun we had together, and she'll try again with me (if I am single)?.. I mean, she was really cute, and seemed to dig me quite a bit... then bam. I talked to an older female coworker about it, and she said that "Well, personally I think she'll get in contact with you.... she clearly needs time to sort out her feelings. Go date people, and let her date... and if she really liked you as much as you said, then perhaps she'll want to try it again with you. The wound is still fresh... give it time to heal. Clearly you had some form of an impression on her; she had sex with you." You need to step outside the box and look at it from an objective point of view. You're emotions are overriding your logic! How do I know? The SAME thing just happened to me! I learned a valuble lesson and know what to look for. She said she wanted to date around and didn't know what she wanted. Well she initated a lot of contact for someone who wanted to date around and she was plenty available for someone who wanted to date around and who didn't want an R so I thought she was "coming around". That's where I was wrong, her actions didn't match her words. I don't want an R + Plenty available and going on lots of dates = I don't want to be alone.
aisuru Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 Let me see if I understand.. you met for one date right? One night? I think this is more you feeling rejected than any actual feelings between the two of you. For whatever reason, she is not interested in pursuing something with you and that's okay. Y'all don't know each other well enough to take it personally, though I know that's easier said then done. Leave it to a great date, preserve your self respect and dignity, and let it go. It's just not meant to be. Don't even worry about whether you'll see her or talk to her again. Just move on.
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