Marine0311 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Hello, My ex has a new bf and I am absolutely crushed and lost as what to do. Im back home out of the Marines, lonely, and just unhappy with life. This just crushed me 100x more. The thought of her with him makes me sick, and I have been obsessing over it. I know all her passwords from when we dated so I cant help but obsessing and checkingup on all she does (ive never done this before in the past). I am just so hurt and know shes never coming back (i wouldnt take her back now). Just feel like I rather be dead or back in Afghan than deal with this.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Patient: "Doctor, everytime I do this, it hurts real bad. Do you have a miracle drug to cure me?" Doctor: "No, but you can stop doing that." Lose the passwords, stop checking up on her, get a hobby. 4
intigo Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Hello, My ex has a new bf and I am absolutely crushed and lost as what to do. Im back home out of the Marines, lonely, and just unhappy with life. This just crushed me 100x more. The thought of her with him makes me sick, and I have been obsessing over it. I know all her passwords from when we dated so I cant help but obsessing and checkingup on all she does (ive never done this before in the past). I am just so hurt and know shes never coming back (i wouldnt take her back now). Just feel like I rather be dead or back in Afghan than deal with this. My ex anounced to common friends she dates a new guy 4 days after sending me a text about how she cannot sleep iwithout me. The same day she told me she loves me..All day i think about them ****ing and having a good time while i cant handle my sadness. I feel you man i really do but you have to keep on pushing.I have bad days and really bad days but time is a healer i know for sure that i will be ok someday i dont know when but i will get there and so will you.Do you know what will happen in the future?if you die then you will never know. YOU are a MARINE get up and fight. Find a way to make her change her passwords or change them yourself she will find out and make a new account. She has a new life and so are you, hers is happy now ours is full of sorrow BUT it will get better i promise. Its ok to feel sad take your time find a friend to talk or just vent here. 1
youngnlove89 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 I have this little technique I do that helps me when I think about my ex sleeping with someone else. Whenever that negative, toxic, obtrusive thought enters my mind, I think about myself sleeping with someone else; an attractive, handsome, tall and fit man and how he will pleasure me. And in some way, it distracts my mind from thinking about my exbf and in turn helps me realize that one day I will find that special person that I get to make love to everyday. So next time, think of yourself sleeping with an articulate, sexy woman with a nice a.ss and beautiful body... I hope that helps. 1
intigo Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 I have this little technique I do that helps me when I think about my ex sleeping with someone else. Whenever that negative, toxic, obtrusive thought enters my mind, I think about myself sleeping with someone else; an attractive, handsome, tall and fit man and how he will pleasure me. And in some way, it distracts my mind from thinking about my exbf and in turn helps me realize that one day I will find that special person that I get to make love to everyday. So next time, think of yourself sleeping with an articulate, sexy woman with a nice a.ss and beautiful body... I hope that helps. I dont want to sound weird but to me its impossible to think something like that.. if i could, i wouldnt just think of it i would do it!!! 2
youngnlove89 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 I dont want to sound weird but to me its impossible to think something like that.. if i could, i wouldnt just think of it i would do it!!! Heck yes! If I had my dream guy in front of me, I would too. Ryan Gosling, where are you? 2
ChazzB Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 well that sounds like something I could use... welcome miss Jennifer Lawrence HAHA OP. Lose the passwords. I know it is hard, i am going through a similar phase. No contact, respect her privacy.
cdt76 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Better yet, get on there and change her passwords to all of the sites you have. This will require her to install new passwords which you will not know. Then delete her from all your social media.
AKisBaked Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 I would suggest taking sometime to gather your thoughts and see your friends and family. Or just stop using social media which also helps too. When you think its rough now just be glad that your back home and not in Afghan man... This will pass. I think you should take a trip with some friends and get an activity that you may be interested in.
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