turnerik Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 My ex and I broke up a little over a month ago. She dumped me. She tells me she just needs space to hang out with her friends as this is her senior year in high school. She's 18, I'm 20. We have dated for 3 1/2 years. We hung out on Sunday and had a great time. I haven't contacted her since. I'm freaking out because I really want to go see her. I want to talk to her. She doesn't believe me when I tell her I won't keep her from her friends anymore. I truly do not want to do that. I want her to have time for her friends and family. I am taking pills, and I am seeing a counselor to work on my insecurity. I have noticed a big change in myself. I want to give her the opportunity to see the new me. How can I keep my self from contacting her, or having panic attacks like I am this morning? I'm not moving on, I'm not giving up, and I'm positive she is not seeing another guy!
iouaname Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Are you on anti-anxiety medication? I understand exactly what you're going through, and as someone with experience, continuing to keep in touch with her or be friends with her will prolong the anxiety. Eventually she might start seeing a new guy or dating other guys and then the anxiety will just continue. For me, the anxiety did not really stop until I cut contact with him. Once contact got re-established, the panic attacks were almost as bad as they were in the beginning.
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