Anon23 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Let me try and keep it short. Me (22) and her (21) been dating throughout September as well as on and off. We became official February 16th it took that long because I usually wouldn't go for a girl like her (she has a daughter) and I saw her as a friends with benefit at first, but she has been wanting to be official since the first month of talking. Her baby daddy has been trying to get her back for 3 years and she didn't want anything to do with him throughout all those years. They had been together for 5. Me and her had arguments here and there and I usually break it off and we get back together. I say things I don't mean while we argue. The last fight I broke it off and said "I don't want her anymore." And, other things which I won't say to keep it short. Anyways, she said she couldn't ever forgive me and I begged for like 3 days straight. Then finally she gave me a chance. We tried things out and she said it doesn't feel the same, the kiss doesn't feel the same, nothing feels the same. So she stopped it. I talked to her, and she said she thinks she loves her baby daddy and doesn't know if she ever stopped loving him. But the baby daddy is now moved on(talking to someone)and in a different state. He doesn't want her back. She tried hard to get him back, she even bought a plane ticket to see him. But she ended up having to cancel that. She texted me after he didn't want her back. After she had deleted my number, instagram, and Facebook. I said I want to be with her and that I still love her. She said I can't be with anyone right now, I still love him. I told her I will wait for her to move on and that I'll be here for her. She said she doesn't want to hurt me again, and she doesn't know if we should be friends because then "what if nothing happens between us after all the time you've waited? And who knows how long it'll be? I want to set you free" I want you to move on and its easier if we don't talk." But I begged I wanted to be her friend at least. I told her I'd wait until she is ready. She said there are going to be rules if we are friends "no texting all day or every day" no saying you miss me, no thinking in the past or suggesting us in the future. And No seeing each other, at least for now" She said she's doing all of this because she doesn't want to hurt me. And I said okay fine by me, we talked about stuff. And after that day I stopped texting her. By the way she told me she was IN LOVE with me while we were together. she never wanted to lose me, I was hers forever. I was the quickest she has fallen in love with, and the first guy to meet her daughter after the baby daddy of course. She fought for me, stood by all my BS, just to be with me. I was a real pain in the ass I can admit that, but she stood by it all. When we fought she said I don't know if I ever loved you, I think I was infatuated with you. But to me if feels like she did love me! She took me back after I left her to talk to another girl, in the same job! I have stopped talking to her for like 4 days now. She must be confused as to why I begged so MUCH to be her friend, if I'm not texting her. Honestly, I want her to text me first though to see if she cares or thinks about me. WHAT DO I DO?
ErosOcean Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Move on. Accept the breakup and don't try to get back together. This is not love, nor is it a healthy relationship. It's infatuation. Your ego is bruised because she is rejecting you, which is causing you to become possessive. Let go dude. You have a lot of issues you need to work out, before thinking about stepping into any new relationship.
Author Anon23 Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 Move on. Accept the breakup and don't try to get back together. This is not love, nor is it a healthy relationship. It's infatuation. Your ego is bruised because she is rejecting you, which is causing you to become possessive. Let go dude. You have a lot of issues you need to work out, before thinking about stepping into any new relationship. Issues like what? All I want is for her to come back to me. It seems like she could possibly come back after she heals. She said "We cannot see each other, at least for now" That 'at least for now' makes a big difference, don't you think? I wasn't a bad person to her. I was great to her and her daughter, her family loved me as well. I think she's just confused...
Author Anon23 Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 You lost me at "Baby Daddy". If that phrase is ever used by you or someone you date... There has never been and there never will be a happy ending. It's the kiss of death.So being in a relationship where a women has a kid with someone else is bad? I think she can stop loving him, obviously not forget him, because he's the father and will always be in the picture no matter what. But me and her were together while he was chasing after her and she didn't care she had ZERO feelings for him. After that fight, she feels she loves him. Why?
ErosOcean Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Issues like what? All I want is for her to come back to me. It seems like she could possibly come back after she heals. She said "We cannot see each other, at least for now" That 'at least for now' makes a big difference, don't you think? I wasn't a bad person to her. I was great to her and her daughter, her family loved me as well. I think she's just confused... Step back and analyze your relationship. Why was your relationship on and off? Why did you keep breaking up with her? Why do you want her back? Do you even know what a healthy relationship looks like? And it's not what the media portrays. Be honest with yourself. You both are confused. Her suggesting that you can't see each other for now, doesn't mean you hold onto the possibility of getting back together. If she's confused about what it is she wants, why would you hang onto those words? Once her head clears up in the future, she may decide she doesn't want to see you at all. The thing is this small glimmer of hope is making you not get over the breakup. But you need to accept the breakup. Move on. You obviously aren't a perfect fit for each other. Plus, nothing has changed at all except for you being needy and clingy now. You are just throwing yourself right back into the same situation. Work out your issues.
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