cane06 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 So I am a guy and came here for advice. My mother has always been important to me and even after being moved out for 7 years I still talk to her every day. The problem is she never likes any girl I date. No matter what they don't seem to fit up to her standards. They either don't have a good enough career, don't "fit me well enough" or whatever reason she comes up with. I have been dating a girl who seems like a really good fit for me. She is motivated, has a good career, wants kids, ect. Pretty much what I want also. The problem is she has been talking about spending the weekend with my family. I know my mom will find something wrong with her and I don't know what to do at this point. Do I tell her that my mom will find fault with her and to just expect it? Do I just say nothing and see how it goes? I want her to have a good time meeting my family, but know there will be some awkward conversation with my mom. Can I just tell my mom to suck it up and tell her that if she doesn't like her it won't matter? I am trying to balance both the relationship I have with my mom and with the girl that I have fallen for and it has been stressing me out. What would you do?
Jbum5 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 More likely than not, your mother has had her fair share of moronic relationships during her years on this planet. More likely than not, she doesn't want you to suffer the same fate so she acts in a controlling way. More likely than not, she believes that you are making the wrong choice. More likely than not, the only solution is to cut ties or let her pick women she thinks are suitable for you.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Just tell your mom to chill out or she won't see the grandkids.
CC12 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Can I just tell my mom to suck it up and tell her that if she doesn't like her it won't matter? Yes. In a nice way, though. Do I tell her that my mom will find fault with her and to just expect it? That depends. Do you think your mother will show her disapproval to your girlfriend's face? Would she be rude to her? If so, then you should give your girlfriend a heads up. Don't say that your mother will find fault, just tell her that your mother can be difficult and leave it at that. And if she is rude to your girlfriend, make up an excuse to leave and just go. You can tell your mom later in private why you left and you can explain that if she's not going to be nice, then you're not going to bring your girlfriend around anymore. But if your mom is the type who would smile and act nice to your girlfriend and wait until she's not around to talk **** about her, then don't tell your girlfriend anything. She doesn't need to know that your mom doesn't like her.
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