Alsuna Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 My story short. Doucheback broke up with me via email after 6 years, telling me even his boots are more important to him than me. Since then he is sex texting my girlfriends, and telling everyone how happy he is I finally pick up my **** from his place. (he doesnt know I know this) I wrote him an email 3 weeks ago, that I want to pick up my stuff, gave him some other options if the date is not fine with him. Now after 3 weeks he sends me an email, with a googlemaps link, where we can be seen walking hand in hand over a bridge with the comment hihi. Also he tells me I can pick up my stuff. I found out he sent the link to all of his friends, so its definitely not a reach out to me, he is just vain and narcissistic as always. I replied to him not commenting on the link, and confirming him when we are coming with my mom for my stuff. He answered pretty fast, asking me what he should put ready. And also how I'm doing, because he is doing now very good. And that I should tell him, if it's not okay from him asking how I'm doing. And now I just want to tell him what I really think of him, because he really doesnt seem to get it. He is dead to me, and even the fact he wants to keep up a friendly tone is unacceptable to me after all the **** he put me through. Plus I know some of his ****, he forgot to tell me about while we were living together, and I definitely doesnt want to know the rest. Looks like he still keeps a fond memory of me, and I just wished we never even met. Now do I let it be, and only reflect on the moving details, or I can tell my honest opinion about him, and how he is behaving right now. I just want to know your opinion before I do something stupid.
Jbum5 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 He clearly has no respect for you or your former relationship. Get your stuff back and ignore this moron. 2
ErosOcean Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Now do I let it be, and only reflect on the moving details, or I can tell my honest opinion about him, and how he is behaving right now. I just want to know your opinion before I do something stupid. No. You move on, grab your stuff and end all communications with him. Your honest opinion doesn't matter because it doesn't change someone unless they want to. If you think you come out the winner by arguing with him, you won't. He'll push back. Just let it go. The person who cares the least wins. 2
Author Alsuna Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 I calmed down, so I see it myself now too. He will never change, but I can stop caring about that and simply ignore him. I rather channel my anger into my workout at the gym later today. Once my stuff is out of the apartment I dont have ANYTHING to do with him anymore. Thats my biggest wish right now. 3
Treasa Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 You are handling it very well! You are taking excellent steps like going to the gym. You're going to be just fine, and he's going to look like the loser he is. 1
KatZee Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Since he doesn't care now, he's not going to care if you go off. If anything that's only going to boost his ego and make him happy he's under your skin and affecting you. Pick up your stuff, and just leave. I wouldn't even engage in conversation with the kid. Then NC!
KraftDinner Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 What an absolute douche. No, don't tell him what you think of him. That'll make him feel important and powerful and give him ammo to try to get your friends to laugh at you. He's a narcissist, right? What you should do is this: act like you don't give a ****. You should say you have plans and are busy and that you're sending someone else to get your stuff. You know him...what would bother him? Whatever you do, do NOT feed his ego! And of course he's going to try to be friendly with you. People like that can't stand the idea of someone being indifferent to them. Lastly, when he contacts your friends, what do they say to him? If they aren't telling him too eff off, it's time for some new friends.
Author Alsuna Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 Thank you guys, you are so great!!! I almost felt sorry for him ignoring him, but you made me realize it's just one of his ego boosting games he plays with me. Well, not with me!!!
CaliBabe Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Thank you guys, you are so great!!! I almost felt sorry for him ignoring him, but you made me realize it's just one of his ego boosting games he plays with me. Well, not with me!!! Good for you girl, keep it up!
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