plasmacoil23 Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Ok, so I've been dating my gf for 2 months+ and I have always found that we have a good time. The exception being is that we had a date last week where I was so high out of my mind that I couldn't speak or dictate what I wanted to do and she got really irritated. So a few days later she sends me text saying "Hey..." and she wanted to ask me if I saw the relationship going anywhere and if I felt a connection towards here. So naturally "breaking up" is what's going through my mind. So I tell her how I think we are good together and how although there's nothing huge between us I would love to continue seeing her. At this point she says she feels more irritated than not and that she feels I put more into the relationship than she does. I also convince her that we need to talk in person soon. After this, I ask what's going on, assuming that this the process of breaking up. So I ask and she says no that were still together and she wasn't trying to do that. We continue texting as if nothing happened. But I'm still worried, it doesn't feel quite the same. What's going on? Any help would be appreciated, thank you.
Treasa Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 She feels you're putting more into the relationship than she is? Ok, easy. Stop putting as much into the relationship. Mirror what she's doing. Also, don't get so high that you can't control your actions. That isn't attractive.
Author plasmacoil23 Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 She feels you're putting more into the relationship than she is? Ok, easy. Stop putting as much into the relationship. Mirror what she's doing. Also, don't get so high that you can't control your actions. That isn't attractive. First off thanks for the response. I don't get high and that's the last time I'm doing that lol. Anyways I don't really put that much into it though. Whenever I text her its always casual and if I'm the one who takes too long she gets mad at me haha. What are ways to make it look like I care less without being rude/disrespectful?
Divasu Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 She wanted to ask me if I saw the relationship going anywhere and if I felt a connection towards her.When a woman asks that type of question, it typically means she's realized she has deep feelings for you, and wants to know if it's mutual. But, it does not coincide with this : she feels I put more into the relationship than she does.If the above were true, it doesn't make sense that she asked the initial question to begin with. What are ways to make it look like I care less without being rude/disrespectful?A better approach may be to try to clarify things a bit first. You behaved immaturely by getting high out of your mind on your last date, so, try to avoid that if you can.
Author plasmacoil23 Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 Ok, for the high thing. It was her Idea and I had never felt what I felt that day it was terrible, I couldn't get a thought out of my head. Can you clarify what you mean by clarify things? lol
Divasu Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Ok, for the high thing. It was her Idea and I had never felt what I felt that day it was terrible, I couldn't get a thought out of my head. Can you clarify what you mean by clarify things? lol Clarify - means to rid of any confusion. Like I said, it does not make sense that she is unsure of your interest level and questioned it (IE: via the "where is this going" question), but then says you have a deeper investment than she does (IE: the "she feels I put more into the relationship than she does" comment). That's what I mean by clarifying (discuss it with her and see if you can reach a mutual level of understanding).
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