jynkies20 Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 okay i hope your sitting down cause this is going to take a minute. Two years ago I met Leah on the elvator and I was in love. I nver talked to her or saw her until I noticed she workded at the smoothie place. I used to go every mon, wednes, fri like clockwork. She even came to my room and hung out sometimes. Then that summer I told her I liked her and she was flattered but had a boyfriend at the time. We kept talking you know as friends. Then when i left to get mobilized we kept in touch by emails. She finally broke up with her boyfriend last spring and when i came back to school we made plans to hang out more. Then i wrote a poem for her and she showed it to her friends, family and elders at church. all of them seem to like it which brought us to talked about how we felt for one another. Basically she's not ready for a boyfriend because she had one for four years and she feels she needs to be single for awhile. She also thinks I'm attractive and that I'm a gentleman(I help carry her books, wrote the poem, etc) Now, I know you guys are basically going to say, just be patient!!!! idiot!!! but I feel, that even though i wait what if she hooks up with someone else? at the same time i don't want to be aggressive. and recently i thought maybe shes been avoiding me but we talked last night and she seemed so sincere so i honestly believe she does like me. I guess the real problem is I'm unsure of myself Please I need advice or support
Jilly10340 Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 I would just wait and see what happens. She seems to like you and if she's sincere about what she's said then she'll come around. Four years is a long time to be with someone, I can understand how she feels like she needs to be single for awhile. You seem like such a big part of her life that I would doubt that she would start seeing someone else if you wait for her. And if she does, then 1.) she's a fool because you seem like such a sweet guy that would do anything for her and 2.) you deserve someone so much better if she would do that after saying what she's said. So stick around, see what happens, but I wouldn't put your life on hold for her. Still go out and have fun
Author jynkies20 Posted October 4, 2004 Author Posted October 4, 2004 okay so heres an update. last two weeks. we're at bible study and she had text me before to see if I was coming that night. Afterwards we walked back to our rooms and she told me how she was checking out the strong facial features instead of paying attention to class. then we bought some cookies and watched a movie. We hung out another night where we talked about how we always hug but they're sincere. I'm the only one she hugs all the time. Then next bible study we kept making faces(before the lesson) and ended up hanging out until 130 am. On thursday she called to see if I wanted to watch a movie but our parents ended up breaking that up. On Saturday she called to see if i wanted to hang out with her while she went shopping for gifts. this took us about two hours, we came back hung out in her room. Then we went to the computer lab and hung out there. She tickles me now and we do all sorts of things to make the other laugh( at least that what it seems to me, im trying to be unbiased) So it seems that we're building a friendship which is good cause we were friends before but we never really spent much time together. Now that my feelings and hers were put out there we do seem to hang out, call each other, more. So i guess I should just take it as it goes and be patient, right?
Papillon Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 It sounds to me like you have a wonderful friendship going. Keep it up, and don't lose patience. Don't put her under pressure, but always be there for her. I am positive that she knows the way you feel.
Author jynkies20 Posted October 24, 2005 Author Posted October 24, 2005 yeah so, she ended up going with some wanna be thug, so it took all summer of 2005 to get over her, i know, we weren't together, but i put a lot into trying to be with her. We still talk nowadays, so, who knows? However i do have a new interesting situation. This girl, kiesha and i have known each other for a year because of our group. We really don't talk much, at least until our group trip last dec. I shared a part of my life with her and wrote her poem because she was going through the same troubles i was having. Needless to say she hooked up with my boy( my luck, right?) but it only last two weeks. We never really talked much since, really, just idle chat and what not. Then this past mon, she helped signed me in to the dorms, we chill before bible study, visit one of her friends, went to bible study. Now during bible study it seems like she wanted to get closer, but I was thinking to myself, whatever....then we played fight and it seem like she wanted to rest on my shoulder. Still i didn't want to believe anymore than it being friendship. Afterwards i talked to my boy, curtis, and on our way back we saw her. She invited me to go play pool with, excluding Curtis, which he pointed out to me later. we got to know more about each other, and ended up spending like an hour together. Then Wednes we were messing around after our meeting just hugging and playing. So basically the advice i have from my friends is be open but be careful. I was wondering what you guys think?
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