Esoteric Elf Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Soooo...what you're saying is that I should stop being happy now that I really like myself regardless of what others *might* think, and go back to getting my validation from others like I used to, even though it made me unhappy? That doesn't make sense. Hmmm, I'm trying to get what I might have said to induce you to make the statement, "I should stop being happy now that I really like myself regardless of [...]" Point in case was that people have deductive abilities. Some less so than others. Some people will say, for instance, you look like crap and give reasoning or not; others will say you look great and give likewise or no. Basing judgement on yourself entirely from your own perspective may be slightly dogmatic, since other people can sometimes (or not) see attributes about yourself (positive and negative) tha you cannot (or, sometimes, will not). I hope that makes sense enough. My point has absolutely nothing to do with happiness, so I am at a loss as to understand why you introduced it. I am making reference to self-perception and self-worth by balancing your evaluation with the evaluations of others.
Am4Real Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Am I reading this thread correctly....? MACK has gone NC against all of LS?? Yowser! 1
Author singme2sleep Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 I happen to be a big fan of yours so none taken. Aww thank you lol
Treasa Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 (edited) Hmmm, I'm trying to get what I might have said to induce you to make the statement, "I should stop being happy now that I really like myself regardless of [...]" Point in case was that people have deductive abilities. Some less so than others. Some people will say, for instance, you look like crap and give reasoning or not; others will say you look great and give likewise or no. Basing judgement on yourself entirely from your own perspective may be slightly dogmatic, since other people can sometimes (or not) see attributes about yourself (positive and negative) tha you cannot (or, sometimes, will not). I hope that makes sense enough. My point has absolutely nothing to do with happiness, so I am at a loss as to understand why you introduced it. I am making reference to self-perception and self-worth by balancing your evaluation with the evaluations of others. No, it doesn't make sense, but what I'm saying doesn't seem to make sense to you, either. I'm really, really happy with myself and my life, regardless of what I think others might think. My perceptions of what others thought was very negative at one point. Now I either don't care, or I only think positive things. Self-esteem comes from thoughts about experiences, not from the experiences themselves. If your thoughts are positive, your moods and actions will be, too. Edited April 25, 2013 by Treasa
iouaname Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Post #4 in this thread. You called me an idiot. Um, no, I didn't. Post #4 in this thread I called her ex an idiot.
Esoteric Elf Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 No, it doesn't make sense, but what I'm saying doesn't seem to make sense to you, either. I'm really, really happy with myself and my life, regardless of what I think others might think. My perceptions of what others thought was very negative at one point. Now I either don't care, or I only think positive things. Self-esteem comes from thoughts about experiences, not from the experiences themselves. If your thoughts are positive, your moods and actions will be, too. What you are saying does make sense...I hope. Let me try: having been dissapointed of people's past perception of you, you have opted to place your self-image entirely contingent on your own opinion, and, being as positive as it is, that has led to you having an entirely positive self-image that, even if it were to receive negative feedback from others, would remain unscathed. Am I hitting close to a mark, or is the tangent area proliferating?? The most revealing line that you have written follows thus: " Self-esteem comes from thoughts about experiences, not from the experiences themselves". All I am saying is cannot those thoughts about experiences be contributed from those around you, and thus affect you negatively? It seems that you have had experience concerning this, so the answer would be "yes", but, you have grown out of that now. You may have experienced what I am referencing in the past, but you experience no more due to your current mentality.
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