if a guy you casually dating buys you gifts?

[syw0806]

We've been casually together for 3 months, we're exclusvie not seeing anyone else, but just no title.

He's been telling me that he likes me a lot, and once actually told me loves me,, but he mentioned he's afraid to get closer. I tried to cut the relationship for several times, because I thought he doesn't like me enough to make me his girlfriend.. we act like a couple, but I heard many people saying you are nothing until you put titles..haha

 

anyways, he bought me little stuffed animal last time randomly,,

and like a week or two ago, he found my sunglasses were broken sitting inside my car and today he got me surprise designer sunglasses gift costs quiet money..

We've been fighting every day about nothing..lol I got paranoid thinking he was on a date with someone (longstory, turned out hes not) He was being mean to me everytime we fight.. so I don't know if he just tries to keep me? Is this him trying to keep getting free milks?

It's not that we are only having sex. we go out to dinners,movies, doing stuffs together too.. but still I'm very insecure person and maybe that's why, I'm little confused..

 

what do you guys think? I really don't pay attention too much about the fact it's designer sunglasses, but the fact he put that much amount of money for me, and thinking of buying sunglasses (bc he saw my broken one) I think this was a sweet considerate gift but I'm still lost haha

because I saw a post from another girl in similar situation and answers were all he's just trying to get into her pants.

what is the deal here?

[normal person]

what do you guys think? I really don't pay attention too much about the fact it's designer sunglasses, but the fact he put that much amount of money for me, and thinking of buying sunglasses (bc he saw my broken one) I think this was a sweet considerate gift but I'm still lost haha

because I saw a post from another girl in similar situation and answers were all he's just trying to get into her pants.

 

Seeing as how he's already "in your pants," buying you the gifts and things seems to me like a sign that he actually cares about you. So from that perspective he sounds like a decent guy. On the other hand, you say he's really mean when you guys fight, so who knows? He can be a mean guy and still actually like you, I guess.

[crederer]

Getting the milk for free? He's taking you on dates and buying you stuff, he aint getting anything for free.

 

Also if you are exclusive, then you are boyfriend and girlfriend. There's really no other way of putting it.

[Treasa]

I don't get the title thing and never have, honestly. Do you go and get registered somewhere? Do you wear signs over your head with the titles? If not, and you're exclusive, don't sweat it.

 

The only thing you should be concerned about is the part about him being mean to you. That's sort of a big thing, unless you're blowing it out of proportion. How is he mean?

[Ninjainpajamas]

All exclusivity means from him is he's just trying to keep your vagina exclusive to him, you have no idea what he may be doing....literally.

 

As far as the stuffed animal...so what? when did a stuffed animal mean a serious sign of affection or dedication in this context? you can go to the fair and win a girl a stuffed animal or buy one really easily that you know she likes...yes it's a nice gesture, but it doesn't profess his undying love.

 

The designer glasses may have been to impress/appease you. Especially with all the arguments and distrust, that doesn't signify however any real commitment, some men would rather buy expensive sunglasses than commit to a girl especially if they have the money or that's just how they spend their money sometimes.

 

It sounds to me like the classic stringing along. Three months is a considerable amount of time, you're sleeping together, spending time together, he takes you out so he at least enjoys your companionship...guys like that kind of stuff too. Does he want a relationship though? doesn't sound like it to me, I think he likes things the way they are and there's a reason he isn't committing...words are cheap, and those moments where see those "emotional things" could just be moments.

 

He's just going to eventually tell you he's not ready for a relationship, afraid because of the past or some crap, doesn't want to get hurt...that kind of BS. You'll just in this pseudo relationship type thing, If you pressure him though he might be forced to enter a relationship if you really leave, he might chase you down and buckle under the ultimatum.