Tantrumboy Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 Hey y'all....this thing is really clouding my mind and making it difficult for me to concentrate, and there are no immediate answers for me...so now i have to turn to u, so u can make sense of whats going on here...and by the way this is my first post... well ok here goes...There is this girl that works in the adminstration, she is 19 and is a straight A student, as well as being physically stunning..anyway.. i interacted with her a lot when i was going for my admission..but it was all strictly business..after getting all the admission formalities out of the way, i didnt talk to her for like months, then when i got my assistantship, i went to the admin. to sign some documents, there i saw her again, and she was all very happy for me, she asked me to drop by sometimes and blah blah...well anyway we chatted for a min. and then i left ...but strangely enuff i got her email the next day(mind u she doesnt know my email address)..the mail basically said the exact same thing, she said to me in person..i took it as a good sign and added her to my messenger. well some days later i caught her online and we chatted for an hour and a half, and i asked her out to lunch on the university premises, which she agreed to, but there was a pretty stupid misunderstanding and she went to the agreed place on wednesday and i went there on thursday, we both waited for each other for 30 mins, or so she tells me..anyway this really happened...the same day i met her in the computer lab and she said that she was sorry for the confusion, even tho it was clearly my fault folks...but anyway she asked me to come online tomorrow morning, i did and we chatted for a long time and at that time i got the first clear indication that she really did like me, she asked me a lot of questions and said that i was cute and all...that day she had to take a class so she quickly left, ...well 2 days later i caught her online again....i said hi to her and she went offline...well ever since then we havent talked..and now its been just over a week...i just wanted to know..shld i just go and talk to her face to face or if she is dropping me subtle hints that i shld lay off..on the other hand i dont want to act all needy by dropping in... well first of all i dont get it..she really did like me in the chats and kept asking me when i would be on next time, on the other hand, the whole next week she doesnt show up online, and when she does, she ignored me ?!?!? plz i know folks, its a veryy long post...but just give me ANY insight u have or ANY advice as to what i shld do...ur input will be greatly appreciated THANKS
EIN Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 My opinion is that she is playing hard to get, you said you see her in administration and from the way you talked about where you met her, She probably seen alot of guys and said the same lines to other prospects such as yourself and whoever keeps pulling, she'll retract. Key is to let her do whatever she wants. Don't give her the cold shoulder but indicate in a way to her that you are comfortable she can do what she wants, it'll draw her to you.
Author Tantrumboy Posted October 8, 2004 Author Posted October 8, 2004 hey...as i mentioned that this problem was driving me up the wall, so i figured i had to take things in my own hand and i took the initiative once again(the first being when i asked her out to lunch, to which she agreed)..anyway i emailed her that i had unfinished business with the lunch and that i would love to grab a bite with her...(i know email is the sissy way out) her reply was all polite and everything, but it said that she was busy that day and she will let me know soon enough...(not good at all !!) contrary to my belief of being blown off, i met her the next day at the lab and we talked for 30 mins on everything except that mail and invitation...but in the end she herself stated that she WILL let me know, and by the way i have always felt in our conversation that she likes me a lot and this one wasnt any different... well the gist of the matter is that it has been more than a week now and no mail on her part....i dont get it ? i really really like this girl and i want to exhaust all my options b4 i resign... i can be extremely brave and meet her face to face and tell her the time and place, i would like to meet her or just wait like an idiot what shld i do guys ? if anything i wanna get ur word on what to do ...plz help me out here !!
LaShawn Posted October 11, 2004 Posted October 11, 2004 If you feel that you absolutely must contact her again, do so politely and let her know that the invite is still open and LEAVE IT AT THAT! Then let her come to you. If she really likes you she will make time and find a way to get in touch with you. Honestly, the worst thing a guy can do IMO in this situation is to keep on trying to illicit an answer. HOWEVER, I think it is completely and utterly rude for her to behave this way. I do not understand it when women can not just speak up about how they really feel. Games are stupid and should be left alone....but you did state she was just 19....soon enough she will learn that the real quality men tire of games quickly. Best of luck to you....remember, let her come to you, you have made your intentions clear.
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