cdt76 Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 I got divorced in 2007. Had 50% custody yet still paid child support. I'm a great father. In 2011 she decides she wants to move to Ohio and take the kids. I took her to court to file for sole custody. I lost because she got remarried during court and she is a good mom. Now I see the kids only once a month, have to spend a crap ton of money to fly them in to see me. When they come, I always find out some crazy sh$t that goes on. Like her husband sleeps all day and is rarely around. My son is in THERAPY...which I just found out about! And had to ASK the ex if it was true. I'm so sick of this piece of crap! I've become so bitter and hateful towards her that it makes me shake with anger! I'm so sick of the kids being in the middle and telling me things when an email from the ex would be sufficient. Stupid whore!
GuyInLimbo Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Did you also have shared LEGAL custody or was it just physical with the mother having full legal custody. If it's 50/50, usually the other parent cannot move without permission from the ex. I can't fathom how/why people do such things to their kids. Just cruel. 1
Author cdt76 Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 My kids are 11 and 8. I had shared legal custody. Missouri is a 50/50 state. She had physical custody. She didn't have my permission. The judge granted her permission and I got stuck with paying flight tickets and short weekends with the kids.
SmokeRat Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Oh the misandry of the justice system. Because we have a penis, we are punished. I blame modern feminism to be perfectly honest. They want all the equality with the responsibility. Heart goes out to you brother, as I do not have children (thankfully) with my STBXW. But I can understand your rage. 1
GuyInLimbo Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 My kids are 11 and 8. I had shared legal custody. Missouri is a 50/50 state. She had physical custody. She didn't have my permission. The judge granted her permission and I got stuck with paying flight tickets and short weekends with the kids. That's just mind-blowing to me a judge would allow that. 1
Author cdt76 Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 Yeah and I had to spend 10,000 dollars to get that answer. Love the courts. It was all because she got remarried at a justice of the peace between the first hearing and the second and she is a good mom. Father's, good fathers, always get crapped on.
ALAACJ Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 This is just awful. I can see this happening to me some day.
whichwayisup Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 I got divorced in 2007. Had 50% custody yet still paid child support. I'm a great father. In 2011 she decides she wants to move to Ohio and take the kids. I took her to court to file for sole custody. I lost because she got remarried during court and she is a good mom. Now I see the kids only once a month, have to spend a crap ton of money to fly them in to see me. When they come, I always find out some crazy sh$t that goes on. Like her husband sleeps all day and is rarely around. My son is in THERAPY...which I just found out about! And had to ASK the ex if it was true. I'm so sick of this piece of crap! I've become so bitter and hateful towards her that it makes me shake with anger! I'm so sick of the kids being in the middle and telling me things when an email from the ex would be sufficient. Stupid whore! Go back to court. Don't give up. If need be, rent your house out and see if you can get a job transfer, move to be closer to your kids. Talk to the judge about doing this. I am shocked that the judge allowed her to move so far away. You are a good father! Sorry that your kids are suffering and one of them is in counseling, though at least he/she is getting help. It's obvious your ex isn't respecting you as their father and that has to stop! You two do not have to be friends, but you DO have to co parent together and have a basic genuine respect for one another.
KathyM Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 I would also suggest that you try to move to the area where your kids are, so that you can have a relationship with them and not just be a once a month dad. Move to their area and try to petition for once a week visitation. Your kids need your presence in their lives. Once a month is not going to cut it. Try not to put your kids in the middle of your animosity for your ex wife. I know that's difficult, but for your kids' sake, please try. It's very limited what you can do about your ex, but you can do what is in the best interests of your children, and that is to have a solid presence in their lives that loves and supports them.
Shocked Suzie Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Go back to court. Don't give up. If need be, rent your house out and see if you can get a job transfer, move to be closer to your kids. Talk to the judge about doing this. I am shocked that the judge allowed her to move so far away. You are a good father! Sorry that your kids are suffering and one of them is in counseling, though at least he/she is getting help. It's obvious your ex isn't respecting you as their father and that has to stop! You two do not have to be friends, but you DO have to co parent together and have a basic genuine respect for one another. OP so sorry to hear this, thats so unfair!! i think whichway has a good few pointers here to try, as this seems so one sided! and i suppose for your kids sake living closer would be an option for you n them..although still very unfair really hope things go your way!
Author cdt76 Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 Her husband is on a contract for his job. That means, should I move there, in all likelihood they will move within 2 years. My job is not mobile. I'm near family and have help with watching them over the summers. I refuse to move to make her life better. I would love to have my kids more but the costs of flight tickets for unaccompanied minors is outrageous. But I can't follow them around the country. My job is stuck here. Where home and family are. She said he is in therapy because of me. Which is total crap. He is with her 99% of the time, how could he possibly be in therapy for me when they come here and they have such a great time EVERYTIME?! She had no answer for that.
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