dkk1234 Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 My girlfriend of two years broke up with me two months ago. I had a hard time going completely nc. I just deleted her contact information on my phone, skype, whatsapp, and facebook. I also deleted our pictures together. I hope things will get better from now on so I can focus on my career and school. I just hope this decision of mine will not be labeled as petty and childish. 5
ViresSanctity Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 (edited) My girlfriend of two years broke up with me two months ago. I had a hard time going completely nc. I just deleted her contact information on my phone, skype, whatsapp, and facebook. I also deleted our pictures together. I hope things will get better from now on so I can focus on my career and school. I just hope this decision of mine will not be labeled as petty and childish. It's actually the mature thing to do. It takes self-control and realization to see where you need to go forward rather than looking back. Personally I don't mind deleting the pictures. Some people told me you'll regret it someday so just store it somewhere you won't look. But when you're dating someone new your memories and life is focused on them. I don't think they'd be happy to see you still are living in the past holding onto those pictures. I wish your NC was as easy as mines. Neither my ex and I use Facebook. Our friends are not mutual and neither are we in contact with either's family. Before I deleted her number, I asked her to promise me to do the same. She didn't reply but knowing her, she'll honor my wishes. Unless we randomly run into each other one day (I doubt since we live in quite different areas) we have no way of ever contacting each other ever again. Edited April 23, 2013 by ViresSanctity 1
cavalier99 Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Great move! Delete all emails and texts too. Cav
SharkTooth Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 DKK, I know how hard that is to do. It was like 2 months ago for me. In a small way, it does set you free. Especially if you have weak moments like I'm sure we all have here. I have an Iphone and a couple of weeks ago I was looking at my Iphoto and bam there she was. I didn't think about that app when I deleted all the pics. It wasn't hard to look at them nor delete them. They actually brought a smile to my face reminiscing. Haven't thought much about them since. It just goes to show you that along with time, focusing on yourself, and learning to be happy on your own, takes care of the pain. I wish you the best!
iouaname Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 It's tough to go no contact and to remove everything! For me it was tough because my ex and I were long-distance, so we had so many things we used that kept us connected: phone numbers, e-mails, AIM, Facebook, Skype, mutual friends, mutual hobbies. Then I also had a lot of triggers, like pictures and clothing, etc. It's taken four months for me to really get rid of it all
crimsoncurrent Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Your post motivated me to delete an old email I kept from my ex nearly four months ago, basically explaining she was moving on. You took a very brave step in your process for recovery.
New2Love4Now Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 I did the same 2 months after the breakup with my ex. At first I was worried about the same thing as you; how will this look to her, what will she think of me etc. It led to a whole lot of anxiety for about 2 weeks and questioning my decision for about a month. Now I know I did the right thing because it really helped me to heal (not having any reminders of her) and I realize now that it doesn't matter at all what she thinks of me because she's not in my life anymore and never will be again. I made a few threads myself asking if I had made the right decision when I deleted everything because I was really worried and unsure. Trust me, you did the right thing.
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