lookingforyou Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 A guy that keeps talking and sometimes cuts you off to continue talking is definitely not interestied in you? It's almost like he enjoys that I'm his audience. I even think I'm his favorite audience.
Poppy fields Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Lots of people, in general, love the sound of their own voice. I don't think that has anything to do with their level of interest in you, just themselves.
Author lookingforyou Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 Lots of people, in general, love the sound of their own voice. I don't think that has anything to do with their level of interest in you, just themselves. Are you saying that they may be interested in me even if they dominate 80 percent of the conversations?
Poppy fields Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Are you saying that they may be interested in me even if they dominate 80 percent of the conversations? It's possible.
Author lookingforyou Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 It's difficult to imagine someone that doesn't care to listen to my thoughts interested in me. How are they to know what kind of a person I am or what values I have if they don't hear me?
BluEyeL Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 I think it doesn't really matter if he's interested, he is self absorbed. Do you want someone like that? I don't. Otherwise, the fact that he's not asking questions about you indicates in general low interest, yes.
Emilia Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 A guy that keeps talking and sometimes cuts you off to continue talking is definitely not interestied in you? It's almost like he enjoys that I'm his audience. I even think I'm his favorite audience. Maybe. Sometimes I get excited about something and I interrupt, especially if I think the other person is taking too long to make their point. I've got better over the years though. It could be just bad manners or impatience, etc. Tell him you want him to hear you out and see how he deals with that.
Author lookingforyou Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 I think it doesn't really matter if he's interested, he is self absorbed. Do you want someone like that? I don't. Otherwise, the fact that he's not asking questions about you indicates in general low interest, yes. It's so frustrating that he's self absorbed. Normally that would be a big strike but in this case we get along like a ball of fire and have great laughs. Maybe. Sometimes I get excited about something and I interrupt, especially if I think the other person is taking too long to make their point. I've got better over the years though. It could be just bad manners or impatience, etc. Tell him you want him to hear you out and see how he deals with that. Sometimes I do take a while to make my point. However, interrupting me is still bad manners. If they kiss the floor I walk on, they'd wait even if I take the whole day to make a point, no?
Emilia Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Sometimes I do take a while to make my point. However, interrupting me is still bad manners. If they kiss the floor I walk on, they'd wait even if I take the whole day to make a point, no? Erm no if they have their own mind. 1
Author lookingforyou Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 Erm no if they have their own mind. Have their own mind, good? Or have their own mind, bad? Have their own mind could be interpreted as them only caring about what they have on their mind, without considering others. Or it could be they're not easily wavered but know what they want.
Emilia Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Have their own mind, good? Or have their own mind, bad? Do you want them to have their own mind? I assume you have preferences in a man. If you want someone with his own mind, you can't take all day to make your point because he will cut you short (like anyone would, including your friends). If you want a lapdog then he will indeed listen all day to you to make your point. Have their own mind could be interpreted as them only caring about what they have on their mind, without considering others. Or it could be they're not easily wavered but know what they want. How? Having your own mind means you are capable of independent thought and don't have a herd mentality. 1
Star Gazer Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 It's really hard to tell. I was accused by the guy from two guys ago of interrupting him when he was speaking, to the point it turned him off. In all my years, I'd never been told I do this. To the contrary, most men (including the accuser who called me "disarming") have said that I'm incredibly easy to talk to. I pride myself on that, actually. So his accusation really confused me. Admittedly, I do interject with things like, "Oh yeah? Isn't that cool!" or "Ah, I want to go there/do that too!" or "Gosh, that really sucks" or the like, to show that I am listening can relate - but not to interrupt and take over the conversation. He felt differently. Thinking back, I remember a particular telephone convo where I was telling a story, and he was so intently listening that I had to ask, "Are you still there?" In retrospect, it's clear that he wants the stage when speaking, and will give it in return. I think conversation is a natural back and forth, not so rigid and "your turn" like. Some people just communicate differently. I couldn't have a "normal" conversation with this guy, for fear of feeling like a rude, self-absorbed interrupter. :/ On the other hand, current guy kinda monopolizes the conversation when we're on the phone. I'll think he's finished and go to speak, and then he'll cut me off and just keep talking. But he doesn't do that at all in person, so I imagine it's something about the phone that makes the break/pause-start in convos and banter a little harder for us to pick up on. But no... No matter how into you he is, he shouldn't be held hostage to your never ending talking at him that doesn't let him participate in the conversation.
Author lookingforyou Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 It's really hard to tell. I was accused by the guy from two guys ago of interrupting him when he was speaking, to the point it turned him off. In all my years, I'd never been told I do this. To the contrary, most men (including the accuser who called me "disarming") have said that I'm incredibly easy to talk to. I pride myself on that, actually. So his accusation really confused me. Admittedly, I do interject with things like, "Oh yeah? Isn't that cool!" or "Ah, I want to go there/do that too!" or "Gosh, that really sucks" or the like, to show that I am listening can relate - but not to interrupt and take over the conversation. He felt differently. Thinking back, I remember a particular telephone convo where I was telling a story, and he was so intently listening that I had to ask, "Are you still there?" In retrospect, it's clear that he wants the stage when speaking, and will give it in return. I think conversation is a natural back and forth, not so rigid and "your turn" like. Some people just communicate differently. I couldn't have a "normal" conversation with this guy, for fear of feeling like a rude, self-absorbed interrupter. :/ On the other hand, current guy kinda monopolizes the conversation when we're on the phone. I'll think he's finished and go to speak, and then he'll cut me off and just keep talking. But he doesn't do that at all in person, so I imagine it's something about the phone that makes the break/pause-start in convos and banter a little harder for us to pick up on. But no... No matter how into you he is, he shouldn't be held hostage to your never ending talking at him that doesn't let him participate in the conversation.[/QUOTE] It's the opposite. He talks incessantly and sometimes cuts me off. It's not about how into me he is. It's whether someone that interrupts me so he could have the stage to talk is interested in me.
Emilia Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 It's the opposite. He talks incessantly and sometimes cuts me off. It's not about how into me he is. It's whether someone that interrupts me so he could have the stage to talk is interested in me. Sounds like you should determine whether YOU are interested in someone who is constantly talking. Don't give the power to him.
Star Gazer Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 It's the opposite. He talks incessantly and sometimes cuts me off. It's not about how into me he is. It's whether someone that interrupts me so he could have the stage to talk is interested in me. How long have you known this guy? How many conversations and dates have you been on? In the early stages, women share when prompted, whereas men advertise voluntarily. If he's nervous, that might compound the problem.
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Is he interested in your life or does he ask questions about you? . 1
Author lookingforyou Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 How long have you known this guy? How many conversations and dates have you been on? In the early stages, women share when prompted, whereas men advertise voluntarily. If he's nervous, that might compound the problem. I've known him for a while but only been on three dates. He's not nervous or shy. If anything, he's a confident person. Is he interested in your life or does he ask questions about you? He asks some questions but I don't find him particularly interested in my life. I can't put a finger on it though.
FitChick Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 He sounds like a Gemini. They never shut up. Can be very entertaining though.
Jbum5 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 There's more analysis over this than it should warrant. It really just comes down to the fact that he likes to exercise his mouth. It likely has zero to do with his interest level in you.
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