30somethin Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Well to keep my story short. Wife of 5 years and I went our separate ways a month ago. We have a 15month old son together. The relationship was bad from the beginning. I being disconnected from her and she always on me about every little thing. We were so incompatible it was sick. I think about the relationship now and I cannot believe that I was in it. I was not myself and did not do the things I liked to do. Waiting every day for her to explode at me and walking around on egg shells. After the separation I was broken, trying to get my life back together and I have to say that these past two weeks have been the best weeks of my life (even though I missed my son). I have been doing new things, meeting new people, and even going out something that I have not liked to do in such a long time. This idea that you need someone to make you happy is not true, I don't need anyone to make me happy (even though having my son is a great help, I do love him). I have started to love again, myself, my friends, my family and even my enemies. It is a great feeling. We have been to custody counseling and got the time divided up with our son. She has more time than me but it is best for our son. He is my world. I can't wait to see what my future holds for me. It is amazing of what I can accomplish. I have a great job, respected by my peers and am in great physical shape. One thing I have done is started to do crossfit. I have been to a gym in a town called Trondheim and met some great people. They are awesome and keep hinting me at moving up there. I don't think I will because I enjoy where I am at and my son is here. This separation process was so hard in the beginning, living in Norway has gave me so many opportunities. I love it here and do not need some woman to get on me and tell me what to do anymore. The thing everyone needs to understand is that you do not need someone to make you happy. In the beginning you lock yourself off from the world, but things do get better. I understand my faults in the relationship and this is something I am working on so that my next relationship will be great. Learn from your mistakes people. This will be my last post in here for a while. I have lurked this site on and off for the past few weeks, writing different things and reading different ideas. I can now say that I have moved on and am only concentrating on myself and my son. Cheer up, get out there, stay positive, you don't need anyone to make you happy, if you can't make yourself happy then you need to find out what makes you happy. Get active and stay active. A healthy body is a healthy mind. Keep this in mind. Lastly, before I go on my way and hopefully will never be lurking on this site again; forgive your ex spouse and move on, that is what I did. Keep things in perspective for you and your family. You only live once! 1
jaded12 Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 (edited) 1 month and you are ok? You met a new bird didnt ya? Edited April 23, 2013 by jaded12 1
Author 30somethin Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 Thanks. Well I am not going to go into details about what is going on. Lets just say that I am doing very well. I so have some major decisions to make in the next few months though. I have applied for a new job and it looks like I am going to get it. But of course I have to keep the ex informed if I decide on moving. It is hard because of my son though. We will see. For some reason, when things start to look gray, they always turn around for me.
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