butterflies1158 Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 My ex and I have known each other for 6-7 years. He's 21 now and I'm 20. We started off as best friends and ended up dating for 2 years after knowing each other for a year. We dated in high school and we're each others first relationship. We had a great relationship and everything went well until my ex's senior year. I'm a year younger than him so I was still a junior. My parents didn't really like him since they thought I was in a serious relationship too young. He ended up going to senior prom with another girl whom he started becoming attracted to. A few months later after prom, I realized my boyfriend and I were slowly drifting. He was never honest with me then and things started to change. I broke up with him and 4 months later of course he started dating his prom date. I was heartbroken since he wanted to remain friends and constantly kept flirting/hooking up with me after our breakup. I was dumb to think that we could stay friends after our breakup. I hated her because I felt like she wanted to break us up throughout high school. They started falling in love and his friends were in love with his new girlfriend. After they were exclusive, I completely cut off communication with him. I ended up meeting other guys, going on dates, and living up my senior year in high school. After the summer I graduated, I ran into my ex. We live in a small town so I wasn't too surprised to see him. He started talking to me life and about his current girlfriend (the same girl he took to prom, they ended up dating for a year in a long distance relationship) and I was happy for him. Deep down, I knew I still had feelings for him but I was still hurt from what happened before. We stayed friends since I knew I wasn't going to have a relationship with him. BAD IDEA. Since we kept in contact, we constantly spoke to each other. We'd call and text and everything would be fine. We ended up having a FWB relationship. I knew what I was doing and how to seperate my feelings from the past. Bad part about it was....he never broke up with his girlfriend. She was living 8 hours away out of town and had no idea. I was going to college in my hometown and so was my ex so it was really convienient for us. They ended up breaking up 8 months after our fwb relationship. I'm not sure if she found out but my ex never told me the reason why. Since then my ex and I still stayed in a fwb relationship until months after his breakup with his other ex. Then one night, he decided to open up his feelings and wanted to take me back. He said he doesn't want an exclusive relationship but he wants to slowly getting back to how it was between us and started to take me out on dates. TILL THIS DAY It's still almost been a year later since he said that and there were so many times I've tried asking him what he wanted. I'm still confused on what I want with him since I'm use to having a fwb relationship. He got a little frustrated since he thinks that all I want from him is a sex. He's so comfortable now and doesn't make as much effort as he did a year ago. He tries to spend more time with his friends than me now since he thinks we spend a lot of time together. I'm hurt by this because I love spending time with him till this day and I feel as if he doesn't appreciate me as much. The problem of getting out of this complicated relationship is that I sort of depend on him for car rides. My college is almost an hour away and my parents can't get me a car as of now. I don't live on my own and can't afford to which is really frustrating so I don't see college friends as much and I can't spend as much time with them since I'm time constricted. My ex has a car and always offers rides and picks me up to hang out. I don't know if I can completely cut him out of my life right now since he's one of the only people that is actually here for me since college. Basically, I need advice on how to approach this situation. I'm confused with what he wants and my ex doesn't know how to communicate his feelings well. I've asked him so many times how he feels and he says that he loves me, he's happy with me and doesn't want to lose me but doesn't want to commit. When it comes to me dating other guys he says that it would really suck and he'd be hurt if he was in that situation but it's something he'd have to deal with. I've been slowly dating and talking to other guys, but there is something about my ex since he's always here for me. I believe I do love my ex boyfriend a lot and I do hope that there is some change and we'd end up falling in love again. I miss being in a secure relationship. But there's so many things in mind. I'm scared he'd be unfaithful if we end up being committed to each other but I do have feelings for him and care about him so much. WHAT DO I DO? I just don't want to keep continuing getting frustrated about him but I'm also not prepared to lose him right now?
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