Author jennifer4 Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 I do need to talk to him about this again. I mentioned it and he said he wasn't on fb. So he lied on top of it. It's just that he seems like a good guy, guess I'm not wanting to see beyond that. I hope this isn't one of the "too good to be true" type relationships. I know those all too well. Thought this was different. I feel like i've backed off some. I'm normally very talkative and tonight on the phone I was pretty quiet. I don't hide my feelings well, so he may sense that something is up. I don't like this feeling of not knowing what he's really about. I really thought him and I were on the same page and that he really wanted more with me. Maybe I'm overthinking, which I tend to do. Just needed to vent. 1
outsidethebox Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 to "like" pics of women friends in revealing outfits? You know how you can see what someone likes, and if they're a favorite, you see their activity on facebook. I'd appreciate opinions. The pics might be revealing a lot of cleavage to women in bra and shorts. only if you can't see it.
edgygirl Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 (edited) I've had an ex do it. Twice. First when we were together he did it on flicker. We ended up breaking up as he didn't understand what was so wrong with him commenting on this s*** pics of this girl who was hitting hon him. Then now that we're fb friends again after several years of not communicating, but because we had a hookup revival once when we met during a trip to his town this year, I noticed he continues to do the same on Facebook. As not the gf anymore, I jokingly laughed about it with him... His answer? "They like my pictures, I like theirs back." That there was nothing wrong with it. Yeah sure... Always these girls in sexy outfits and facing the camera begging for love. Then it finally occurred to me that HE himself was the attention wh***!!! with his own pics too. He wants his self pictures or pics of the mansion he lives in to be liked. And he's a total Internet addict. I hate how many guys don't realize how their partners feel and are not compassionate. Prefer to look for the ones who care about my feelings. Edited April 24, 2013 by edgygirl
Author jennifer4 Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 I really think that guys don't even pay attention. So even if i was to "like" pics of hot guys he wouldn't even notice. LOL sad but true. And btw this guy is 45. Old enough to know better. And I think he took the hint, haven't even seen him on fb since this happened oh well. Live and learn.
ChessPieceFace Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 I certainly don't "like" pics of men on fb, just a mental like So then really, you want to punish him for honesty.
RedRobin Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 I really think that guys don't even pay attention. So even if i was to "like" pics of hot guys he wouldn't even notice. LOL sad but true. And btw this guy is 45. Old enough to know better. And I think he took the hint, haven't even seen him on fb since this happened oh well. Live and learn. Hmm... Certainly takes the blush off this rose. That's too bad. It doesn't sound like you are the type to go hunting for this kind of thing either... Sounds like you came across it accidentally. Is that the case? That is how it is with me. I can't say I go hunting for negative stuff. But I certainly don't brush it aside when I see it... or chalk it up to 'boys will be boys' like so many people might expect me to do. I know what I would do if I were you... but I'm not you. I wouldn't tolerate that behavior from a 'man' his age and would end things... or certainly cool things off. Seems rather adolescent and thoughtless. I'm really sorry, OP. But cheer up... these are the little 'tells' that show you what a guy is made of early on. Good of you to pay attention. You'll have to decide if continuing is worth it. I'm sad for you that he decided to tarnish your trust that way.
Author jennifer4 Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 Redrobin, thanks. I haven't seen him since the day I noticed the first "like". Well it's been 3 days and again today he "liked" another one of the girls pics. i say girl because she is like 28. I hadn't talked to him in person about this, just over the phone the first time and he denied being online. So I haven't talked in person about how disrespected i feel. Next time I see him I have to. This sucks. We seemed like a perfect match, we may still be. I got caught up in all of it. The 'love' word is being used already. What a mess. I just need to slow down. Thanks again for your words of encouragement. And you're correct, I wasn't even looking, just complete shock when I saw it.
veggirl Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Ah a 45 yr old man trolling for 28 yr old booty via FB. I'd dump him. The liking the photo was a red flag, for sure...but then lying about even having a FB? He's hiding a lot more than you know. I wonder what kinda messages he sends to these girls. (I'm surprised a 28 yr old woman is posting risque photos of herself on fb tbh but I guess that's besides the point. I thought from your OP that you all in this situation would be like 22 max) 1
Author jennifer4 Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 he didn't deny having a fb, he denied being online the night I noticed he "liked" the pic. I'm 40. I haven't asked him how he knows this girl, I see she has a boyfriend but that doesn't matter. I should have known better. it looks like her most recent pic is a "professional" type model pic. This was a different girl than the one in what looked to be underwear. He "unliked" that one when I mentioned it.
Jbum5 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 The result of this discussion is frankly nil. Continuous analysis about the clicking of a single button on a social networking site proves that it's trolling you. Don't be naive - even if he didn't click the button the subject in question is likely to have gone through his head anyway. Be thankful that he's actually open about it, and don't let the "like" button troll you any longer. 1
CuriousKitty7777777 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 to "like" pics of women friends in revealing outfits? You know how you can see what someone likes, and if they're a favorite, you see their activity on facebook. I'd appreciate opinions. The pics might be revealing a lot of cleavage to women in bra and shorts. To answer your question: YES it is wrong. Not only is it rude and disrespectful to you and your feelings, but he is publicly showing the world how ****ty he treats you. I'd be soooo pissed. Have a private talk with him. Get this squared away right away. This is about respect. Do not back down. And also. Take this as a RED FLAG.
RedRobin Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 he didn't deny having a fb, he denied being online the night I noticed he "liked" the pic. I'm 40. I haven't asked him how he knows this girl, I see she has a boyfriend but that doesn't matter. I should have known better. it looks like her most recent pic is a "professional" type model pic. This was a different girl than the one in what looked to be underwear. He "unliked" that one when I mentioned it. What I find is that people do things early on as a way to implicitly ask 'permission' to do certain things and see if they can get away with it. How I'd take this, is he is (in a way) asking for permission to troll for other women while he is with you... by doing it out in the 'open' he can claim he's not cheating or betraying. If you go along with it or stick with him, then you'll have to be ok with the outcome of such behavior in the long run. How long have you been dating? I find these things start to emerge within the first few months. Very important to keep tabs on this because they are setting a precident for what is allowed/expected in the future. I personally wouldn't have a problem breaking up with a guy over this... and have for similar... and yea, the guy told me he 'loved' me too. Whatever. This is public disrespect of you, IMHO. He's not a kid. He knows better and is doing it anyway. 1
Author jennifer4 Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 I use facebook to keep in touch with family out of state primarily. If it's not your thing I understand. Not trying to "push" facebook. As much of a yawn you think this topic is, I feel it's important. To each his own.
outsidethebox Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Any other non-Facebook users run into the same sort of thing? Nobody that counts.
outsidethebox Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 yeah, but does he "like" in front of her? That's where it gets rude.
Author jennifer4 Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 I want a drama free relationship. Do they exist? lol Maybe. I sure hope so. It's not like he sits next to me at the computer and does it, but yes, I see it. It's hard not to, and I wasn't even looking. That makes it worse. True, at 45 he should be over that whole thing. I know men will look, so will women, it's fine. But disrespect isn't. I agree with you all. In case it matters, we met on POF. After the fact I've read a lot of bad things about it. We shall see.
Author jennifer4 Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 well, we may be over again this morning, he liked a pic of a girls huge cleavage! nothing more , just tits. then a pic of her in jeans with her ass in the mirror. i called him, right after it came into my news feed. he seemed shocked but says "oh, she's my friend" and i liked her pics. umm, her tits. and ass! ugh I'm pissed. he said i shouldnt be his fb friend then and that i'm too jealous. he said he wouldnt care if i did the same with guy pics. then he says he doesnt wanna talk about it. i said its dissrespectful. he said thats how i see it. i said yes so perception is my reality. he didnt agree. ugh! Im too old for this bs! 1
RedRobin Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Im too old for this bs! I agree. I personally wouldn't want to associate with someone with such low class. Also, are these your friends or his? None of MY friends would post pics of that stuff. If those are his friends, then perhaps that says something about him too. He has no class, and his friends have no class. *shrug* Seems pretty cut and dry to me. NEXT.
Author jennifer4 Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 Livedandlearned, thanks. That's the truth, I see it now. I wish I had seen this crap sooner. He hasn't text me or called me and I haven't either. Guess this is it. and mr.soul, you sound as immature as he is.
Author jennifer4 Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 btw, I added pics. If he's looking for big tits, he's with the wrong person for sure. Oh well. 1
DaSkullCrusher Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 to "like" pics of women friends in revealing outfits? You know how you can see what someone likes, and if they're a favorite, you see their activity on facebook. I'd appreciate opinions. The pics might be revealing a lot of cleavage to women in bra and shorts. It is based on where your boundaries are established. I would just talk to him about it. I'm not trying to be rude but it sounds like you are being insecure.
Author jennifer4 Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 These are his "friends", not mine. Very trashy. I'm not being insecure, just won't be disrespected. End of story. 2
grkBoy Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 to "like" pics of women friends in revealing outfits? You know how you can see what someone likes, and if they're a favorite, you see their activity on facebook. I'd appreciate opinions. The pics might be revealing a lot of cleavage to women in bra and shorts. I do it. My fiancee knows I'm not preferring them to her. I mainly do it either because they're great photos (I do photography for a hobby) or because I simply think they look great and the "like" simply is a friend flattering them.
outsidethebox Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 unfriend him so you don't have to see any more of those low class "likes".
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