jennifer4 Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 to "like" pics of women friends in revealing outfits? You know how you can see what someone likes, and if they're a favorite, you see their activity on facebook. I'd appreciate opinions. The pics might be revealing a lot of cleavage to women in bra and shorts.
Poppy fields Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Do women really post bra pictures on Facebook? Yuck. 1
Estate Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 It depends but... not really. Guys like to look at hot girls, end of. 1
Feelin Frisky Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 No, it's not wrong to "like" it, it's wrong to press the stupid "like button" on idiotic Face Book and get nailed by your significant other doing it. 22
ForeverHopeful1 Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Hehehehehe Have you met woman before? Guys may like to look at other females, and that is granted. I like to look at other men. LOOK! Not LIKE! Do not hit the like button!!! Abort mission!!!!!!! Women get all crazy about things like other women. Sometimes they feel self conscious, or like they arent as hot. I would never blatantly offend my partner that way. I am human and I do look. I do not touch and I certainly dont "like." 3
ForeverHopeful1 Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 No, it's not wrong to "like" it, it's wrong to press the stupid "like button" on idiotic Face Book and get nailed by your significant other doing it. Nailed it!
KraftDinner Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 No, it's not wrong to "like" it, it's wrong to press the stupid "like button" on idiotic Face Book and get nailed by your significant other doing it. Brilliant! I both like this and will press the "like" button. Thanks for the laugh! 1
Author jennifer4 Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 thanks for the replies. I agree. Not sure if it's something I wanna bring up. I sort of did. I certainly don't "like" pics of men on fb, just a mental like
pbjbear Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Hehehehehe Have you met woman before? Guys may like to look at other females, and that is granted. I like to look at other men. LOOK! Not LIKE! Do not hit the like button!!! Abort mission!!!!!!! Women get all crazy about things like other women. Sometimes they feel self conscious, or like they arent as hot. I would never blatantly offend my partner that way. I am human and I do look. I do not touch and I certainly dont "like." I agree 100% with this statement. Women do all the same things as men but we tend to be more respectful than our partners about it. Men get a free pass to act like shallow pigs essentially. If us women did this men would freak out. There are actually threads on this site Ive read where a girl does stuff like this ("likes" other guys' photos) and the men respond the girl must not be trustworthy...LOL men. Its ok for them to do it but not us 3
PogoStick Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 What's wrong with giving someone a compliment? Having a gf doesn't make other girls hideous. Why such insecurity?
Author jennifer4 Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 the "problem" is , it's not just a regular pic. It's a pic of cleavage and or revealing outfits. Maybe it's nothing. I'll be keeping an eye on it. It's the only thing so far that has caught my attention. Not a dealbreaker. Just wanted other opinions, since I of course wouldn't do it, I feel its disrespectful.
RedRobin Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 I agree it is disrespectful. Not only is it disrespectful of you, it also shows the other people on Facebook that he doesn't respect you. Everybody looks. Some are just more classy about it and need to develop some couth. Me personally, I'd take it as a red flag, and start making my exit plan from the 'relationship'. This won't be the last time he does something like that. 1
runningfar Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 to "like" pics of women friends in revealing outfits? You know how you can see what someone likes, and if they're a favorite, you see their activity on facebook. I'd appreciate opinions. The pics might be revealing a lot of cleavage to women in bra and shorts. Facebook is creepy. I don't think it's something to fight about, and I don't think I would notice my boyfriend doing it, but if I did notice I would be skeeved out. I have a few Facebook friends who have leering on Facebook be their main use of it and I think they're a little pathetic. What women post that stuff anyhow? It's so obvious an attention thing, too. (I say who, but I know ton who do. If its a habit, I think they're pathetic and creepy too)
Author jennifer4 Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 I wasn't "looking" for it. I have a few people as my "favorites". Their status's and activity pops up. It was a bit of a shock. Not trying to break up with him over it. as i mentioned it's just something to be aware of. It's normal to want to see nice looking people. Not sure why, but it bothers me.
veggirl Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 I'd bring it up. If my bf was being that tacky and stupid, I'd have no problem bringing it up. I'd also be upset that my bf was so douchey. Although, I think we are past the age bracket that puts up photos in bras and undies.
RedRobin Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 I don't know what to tell you OP. My experience is that this kind of behavior will manifest itself in other ways down the line... or is 'leaking' out from behavior he's successfully hidden from you. Tip of the iceberg, really. I'd mention it after breaking up with him if he asks. Tell him that you are looking for a man with more class. Let the next girl train him up. Or, you could just cool things way off and see what happens. Either way, I'd say his interest in you is rather lukewarm if he's doing stuff like this. Take it as a warning and act accordingly, is my best advice. OTOH, keep in mind that I'm probably going to dump (or remove from romantic consideration) someone I've been seeing for the past month over what some would call minor. Experience has taught me what some of these behaviors lead to and I just don't put up with it. Hope you get some clarity soon!
pbjbear Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 What's wrong with giving someone a compliment? Having a gf doesn't make other girls hideous. Why such insecurity? Because men become insecure when women do that and say she must be untrustworthy and a whore. This sort of behavior shows a lack of respect towards your girlfriend. OP, Id be on the lookout for other "disrespectful" behaviors. Id bet good money theres more to come.
yessy21 Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 I wouldnt make a big deal. Id just feel free to like all the men that id want. 2
mirandasantiago Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 I think it's a bit silly to over react, but within good reason. There is nothing wrong with "liking" someone's picture on facebook, but if you know it's going to make your significant other uncomfortable, why do it? It doesn't seem worth it to me.
pbjbear Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 I wouldnt make a big deal. Id just feel free to like all the men that id want. Honestly not a fan of games. But if I were the OP Id go on Facebook and like all of the pictures of this guy's friends where only the friend is in the photo... Then watch the hypocrisy ensue. Every. single. guy I have EVER dated that pulled **** like this got angry when I did the same thing. Its hilarious. The last guy who did stuff like this made remarks about how hot my bosses are several times. I made ONE remark about his co worker and he flipped a ****. Free entertainment for me. Men arent generally sensitive to other peoples feelings...they dont think "How will this make my S.O feel?" the way women do. 1
MidwestUSA Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 I'd bring it up. If my bf was being that tacky and stupid, I'd have no problem bringing it up. I'd also be upset that my bf was so douchey. Although, I think we are past the age bracket that puts up photos in bras and undies. I dunno, I'm pretty hot in my granny panties! 1
Author jennifer4 Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 thanks. I needed to hear other people's opinions. It really is the only negative thing I've noticed so far in our relationship. He is a decent guy. This is just an eye opener, it may never happen again. I'm more aware so that's a plus. I deserve a guy who treats me respectfully. In all ways. Not too much to ask.
RedRobin Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Honestly not a fan of games. But if I were the OP Id go on Facebook and like all of the pictures of this guy's friends where only the friend is in the photo... Well, in order for it to be effective, it would have to be just the hot ones and the ones the guy might already be a little sensitive about. Even better if the guy has a reputation as having a bigger d*ck than your BF... or more money... or whatever it is your particular guy is sensitive about. Yep, we ladies can play that too. Do that the day AFTER you break up with him, OP, lol... then write... "so glad I'm single now " in the comments... See how many of them line up to try and date you. I'd never do that IRL. Fun to think about though.... I'm not a tit-for-tat kinda person. I'm an observe quietly then walk person. Now more than ever. I used to be a 'bring it up' kinda person, but that just makes them more secretive. Once they get past the age of 25, I figure they ought to know better on this kind of stuff. 1
tbf Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 thanks. I needed to hear other people's opinions. It really is the only negative thing I've noticed so far in our relationship. He is a decent guy. This is just an eye opener, it may never happen again. I'm more aware so that's a plus. I deserve a guy who treats me respectfully. In all ways. Not too much to ask.In order for a guy to treat you with respect, you have to outline what's considered disrespectful since the boundaries are subjective to individuals. If the guy continues to exhibit disrespectful behaviour after he's aware of your relationship boundaries, that's a major red flag.
KathyM Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 His liking another woman's alluring photo on FB shows disrespect for you and your relationship. I'd also have to wonder why he is wanting and needing to show the woman he is interested in the revealing photos of her. He's wanting to show an interest in her for some reason, and guys that are in an exclusive relationship shouldn't be wanting or needing to get validation from other women and shouldn't want or need to show their sexual interest in other women. Definate red flag if a guy does this. 2
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