todreaminblue Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 I dont normally start threads that often ...i am a bit ....thread shy........starting one i mean...... i am about to start swimming in the dating pool need some stories good ones that is to shove me in the deep end of course............so if you have a good story to share about a first date after having a break fro a while.....even if not having a break fro a while...... please share date stories.....g rated if possible.......... i would love to read them...........
Poppy fields Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 I met my husband at a coffee house/ draft house type of place where they always had a band. I approached him because I liked his hat and wanted to ask him a question about it. We started talking, and I invited him across the street to have drinks with some friends of mine. That progressed to a dance club. So, our first date was not really a date, just a meet up with a lot of activities that lasted all night. Our first formal date was at a Tex Mex restaurant. We talked and flirted and had the best time. The rest is 8 years of pretty good history. 2
Author todreaminblue Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 I met my husband at a coffee house/ draft house type of place where they always had a band. I approached him because I liked his hat and wanted to ask him a question about it. We started talking, and I invited him across the street to have drinks with some friends of mine. That progressed to a dance club. So, our first date was not really a date, just a meet up with a lot of activities that lasted all night. Our first formal date was at a Tex Mex restaurant. We talked and flirted and had the best time. The rest is 8 years of pretty good history. that's a wonderful story poppy....mexican food rocks..8 years rocks..smilin....thanks for sharing....deb 1
Author todreaminblue Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 I've had lots of dates with lots of girls and most of them have been fun and not awkward at all, and the tiny percentage of ones that are bad make for funny stories that never have to feel embarrassed about because theres no need to ever see the other person again. So in summary, theres nothing for you to be worried about - go out and have fun! thanks brick........i do normally have fun...its breaking the drought....my friend had a drought for nine years and broke it only recently....she is upbeat about it all...we differ on dating styles though.....she is more extroverted than me.....and more ....casual...i am not a casual person....i do want to have fun i am not dead set serious....i love having fun..just nto sexual fun...ill try anyway see how i go..what i worry about is not having a car to escape with......have to wear nikes..;0).i just have to go pretty public.....i dont drive and i can become disorientated with directions.......helps me be a bit hesitant.so looking for some feel good stories on ls............ill just have to go somewhere i know the route home really well.................or i could call a cab i guess.....thankyou...hugs...deb
2sure Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 I have found even the most confident men are more nervous than us. 3
Author todreaminblue Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 Especially the married ones! the married ones better be nervous...they can stay nervous............turns me off dating...i dont want to hurt some woman.....or some family......deb 1
curlygirl40 Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Deb!! Don't even stick your toe in just jump right in! I take every date lightly. It's a fun evening doing something and meeting someone new. Might be a friend, might be a lover, might be a great story to entertain your friends! I have some of the best stories and my friends are all going to be upset when I settle down because then the bad first date stories will come to an end! A gf said to me once 'See, THAT right there is what stops me from dating, but you turned it into a stand up comedy routine and just kept going'. I had another gf of mine in my room helping me pick out an outfit for a first date and she says 'how do you do it? This is the umpteenth first date you've been on and you're still happy and excited about it, how do you keep that attitude?' What I told her was that for all I know, the man I'm supposed to be with is going to be sitting on the other side of that table tonight or he could be going through a divorce right now and I won't meet him for a year or more so I might as well enjoy this evening. You just never know. My very first online date was funny. This was before I knew better! We had texted up a storm before the date (Mistake #1), NEVER talked on the phone (mistake #2) but got along great via text. He was a rough around the edges kind of guy, sleeve tattoos (not my thing but I wasn't turned off by it let's say), pics of him on a motorcyle. A man's man. The flirting had gotten too out of hand (mistake #3) I was so sure that we would hit it off. We made plans for a bar that had a band and he knew I didn't have the kids and didn't have any place to be for the rest of the evening. (mistake #4) My friends were worried about me since this was my first OLD ever, meeting a new guy so they asked me to text them to tell them I was safe shortly after I met him. The SECOND I saw him coming towards me I knew I wasn't attracted to him. He was SO feminine. His mannerisms, his voice, everything. I went into the bathroom and texted my bff and said 'no worries. I'm safe. He's like a gay best friend. Nice guy but very feminine. I'm going to be fine. CRAP!!!' She STILL (almost 3 years later) laughs about this text and said she wishes she kept it. Have fun with it Deb! I'm sure once you're dating more you'll be starting more threads. lol Good luck 1
carhill Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 My first date after splitting up with my exW happened with someone I met on Yahoo personals, right before it was absorbed by Match. We met for lunch on a Saturday, had some wonderful sushi and sashimi, some wine and sake and spent a couple of hours getting to know. We dated for about a month before moving on. Positive experience. About the only negative, but one I'm used to being around female friends, is that she complained a bit too much about the ex she divorced seven years prior; since I was used to that, I just ignored it. I enjoy getting to know new people and don't have any expectations anymore so dating, if I were interested, would probably be fun. Best wishes for success in your pursuits and, most of all, enjoy yourself! 1
Author todreaminblue Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 Deb!! Don't even stick your toe in just jump right in! I take every date lightly. It's a fun evening doing something and meeting someone new. Might be a friend, might be a lover, might be a great story to entertain your friends! I have some of the best stories and my friends are all going to be upset when I settle down because then the bad first date stories will come to an end! A gf said to me once 'See, THAT right there is what stops me from dating, but you turned it into a stand up comedy routine and just kept going'. I had another gf of mine in my room helping me pick out an outfit for a first date and she says 'how do you do it? This is the umpteenth first date you've been on and you're still happy and excited about it, how do you keep that attitude?' What I told her was that for all I know, the man I'm supposed to be with is going to be sitting on the other side of that table tonight or he could be going through a divorce right now and I won't meet him for a year or more so I might as well enjoy this evening. You just never know. My very first online date was funny. This was before I knew better! We had texted up a storm before the date (Mistake #1), NEVER talked on the phone (mistake #2) but got along great via text. He was a rough around the edges kind of guy, sleeve tattoos (not my thing but I wasn't turned off by it let's say), pics of him on a motorcyle. A man's man. The flirting had gotten too out of hand (mistake #3) I was so sure that we would hit it off. We made plans for a bar that had a band and he knew I didn't have the kids and didn't have any place to be for the rest of the evening. (mistake #4) My friends were worried about me since this was my first OLD ever, meeting a new guy so they asked me to text them to tell them I was safe shortly after I met him. The SECOND I saw him coming towards me I knew I wasn't attracted to him. He was SO feminine. His mannerisms, his voice, everything. I went into the bathroom and texted my bff and said 'no worries. I'm safe. He's like a gay best friend. Nice guy but very feminine. I'm going to be fine. CRAP!!!' She STILL (almost 3 years later) laughs about this text and said she wishes she kept it. Have fun with it Deb! I'm sure once you're dating more you'll be starting more threads. lol Good luck your post made me smile....thanks for the support...hugs..just sent three interested back to three and they messaged me back..it cant hurt me to just chat and see how it goes......ill be ok....repeating often...smiling atcha........deb 1
Author todreaminblue Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 My first date after splitting up with my exW happened with someone I met on Yahoo personals, right before it was absorbed by Match. We met for lunch on a Saturday, had some wonderful sushi and sashimi, some wine and sake and spent a couple of hours getting to know. We dated for about a month before moving on. Positive experience. About the only negative, but one I'm used to being around female friends, is that she complained a bit too much about the ex she divorced seven years prior; since I was used to that, I just ignored it. I enjoy getting to know new people and don't have any expectations anymore so dating, if I were interested, would probably be fun. Best wishes for success in your pursuits and, most of all, enjoy yourself! will do carhill....its so much more fun if i enjoy it..i have male friends and we have a blast.......i make them laugh so .....i just need to settle a bit..thanks for the support.....deb
carhill Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Dating, IMO, is supposed to be fun and if it works out into a relationship, bonus points. Just follow the yellow brick road (Watching 'Wizard of Oz' right now) 2
Yamaha Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Don't be scared! My GF and I met and were instantly smitten with each other. Me, a single guy and her, divorced mother of 3. We grew to care about each other deeply and are going strong after 4 years. Don't be afraid to open up and you might find the happiness you deserve! 2
LadyGrey Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Deb.............congrats hon, for getting out there. Hey I can relate to the title, lol. I've been on a few dates after a break, yes I was nervous and scared, but once I got there, I eased into it. Two of my dates were seriously so bad, after it was over with, it was freakin hilarious. My bff and I snorted like a horse we laughed so hard. On the other hand.........I recall one that was awesome, but the 2nd one, wasn't. Not sure what happened there. Anyway..........be safe, look for the humor, it might come after, lol and who knows, you might click and have a great time and maybe more later. All the best to you! 2
Author todreaminblue Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 Dating, IMO, is supposed to be fun and if it works out into a relationship, bonus points. Just follow the yellow brick road (Watching 'Wizard of Oz' right now) love that movie......lol.....smilin...thanks.....will have fun...writing that down.... must follow the yellow brick road and have some fun, soak up beach, the ripples , the breeze, the sun, doesnt matter if he isnt the one, and the end of the day if a smile is won, that is an enjoyable date said and done....;0)......d....e...b
pyramid Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 My first date this go-round was someone I'd met via OLD... we'd talked on the phone and it was kind of awkward - I thought it would be better in person (turns out it never is). He was a poor conversationalist and I wasn't attracted, so I'd kind of checked out... he ended up showing me videos of his kids on his phone. (It was a weekday lunch.) But whew - was glad to have that over with. 1
Author todreaminblue Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 update....got onto my dating profile and put myself out there...since yesterday had quite a few responses...... ....agreed to a beach date for saturday with a guy who said friendship first see where it goes....but family is skittish...i dont drive so was going to train it down to the beach.......my mother and my sister want to drop me off like i am a special needs child....my ex told me to be careful and wants updates.....and its getting me paranoid.,......i am still going....from now on going stealth....i was excited maybe i should hav egotten to know him alittle btter before i said yes.......i just read the word beach...and went cool fun.....and yep i am free saturday......deb
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