may_girl Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 I put this thread in breaking up but I think it's more suited to here. I was dumped by my boyfriend 3 months ago. We have been NC since then pretty much, other than one set back last month. We broke up because I found very inappropriate emails he exchanged with a co-worker behind my back. He started dating her as soon as we broke up and is still with her now. I had saved the emails on my computer but didn't dare read them properly - it hurt too much at the time. I have spent the last three months believing he is genuinely a nice guy, that circumstances tore us apart. Missing him, still caring for him....until today. I read those emails I had saved. HE IS A TOOL! They are SO bad. I cannot believe I spend all this time wasting my thoughts on his pathetic existence. What a joke he is. That moment when I realized what an actual ****head he is, my feelings lifted. It has instantly become so much easier to get over him. All us dumpees need to stop making excuses for our ex's. They are selfish. They only care about themselves. When that finally hits us, when we start putting ourselves first, that is when we are well on the way to getting over them. 2
MMJ Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 U seem to sound very badly hurt. Just move on find someone and show him what you are really worth..
fiftyofsomethin Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Yeah, thats great you found a way to move on! One thing I noticed with MY breakup and pretty much everyone else's breakup is that it usually isn't motivated by anything you did (most of the time), and it's usually some s hit with the person who dumped you. It's not really anything personal. But then again, even I can't believe my own words there, I still miss my ex. So I suppose it is just a process and "time heals all wounds". Yeah yeah, we will see about that, won't we? 1
cdt76 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 I've found the same ammo to break the connection with my ex. However, I still miss her, still miss the companionship. I miss the laughter. Haven't found anyone remotely close to date since then and I'm struggling with the loneliness. I miss the sex and wish there was a way to wipe the memory of her from my mind. 1
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