strozzap Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 Hi! I'm a 23 years old man and I'm currently in a relationship with a 21 year old girl. However, I'm thinking that this relationship may end eventually... In my previous relationships, I've always been with "the girl who just broke up" or "the girl with low self-esteem" or "the girl who's far away from home and feel lonely"... It seems like I always attract those emotionally unstable women... The girl I'm with now, it's been 1 year that we're together... But I suspect that she might be with me to prove herself that she's not a lesbian... I've suspected her to be into women even though she denied it. It really kills me to think that she may leave me for a woman someday... However, I think what kills me the most is the fact that I don't think I've ever been in a relationship with a girl who actually loves me for real... and I'm scared that I'll never find one... I'm a 5'6" skinny guy... So I'm really far from the manly man... But my face looks good, I have a nice jaw line, prominent nose and deep eyes. My personality, I believe that I'm not a funny guy... I really would love to be but I can't make people laugh. I'm kind of boring... I also don't have a great memory... I feel like I'm wasting my life but I do not have the creativity and I'm so lazy to change it... But inside of me I'm screaming to change... I've had my first depression in High School when I became atheist and were constantly thinking that life makes no sense... I still believe that way but I'd love to enjoy my life. I need help... Does anybody relate to my story? Does anybody know any solution? Link to post Share on other sites
ViciousCycle Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 Would you consider yourself to be a "nice guy"? I am reading a book called No More Mr. Nice Guy that would indicate that certain types of guys attract a certain type of person to them, that being ones lacking stability. It is related to the idea of codependency, I believe. Just a thought. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jkepler85 Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 Sounds like you have no confidence and life energy. If you think you're boring and don't want to be, then change that. Take some classes, exercise, get a new hobby, take a trip. When you believe you're awesome, people will want to be around your awesomeness. As long as you're not a hideous shut in, confidence, humor and energy trumps looks in most cases. Man up and take care of yourself, you only get one chance to live it, so make the most of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author strozzap Posted April 22, 2013 Author Share Posted April 22, 2013 (edited) Sometimes I might be a "nice guy". However most of the time I'm impulsive with my girlfriends and as soon as everything doesn't go perfectly I start being paranoid and imagine that she wants to break up so I tell them things such as "you know if you wanna end it just tell me! Let's break up!" bla bla... I think I'm a little bit manipulative sometimes, but I do it unconsciously... I hate that... I just want to be a simple happy guy with a simply happy girl who loves me for real. Edited April 22, 2013 by strozzap Link to post Share on other sites
Author strozzap Posted April 22, 2013 Author Share Posted April 22, 2013 Sounds like you have no confidence and life energy. If you think you're boring and don't want to be, then change that. Take some classes, exercise, get a new hobby, take a trip. When you believe you're awesome, people will want to be around your awesomeness. As long as you're not a hideous shut in, confidence, humor and energy trumps looks in most cases. Man up and take care of yourself, you only get one chance to live it, so make the most of it. I think you might be right... I spend my days on this damn computer... It's a real problem, it made me become so lazy, without any energy or creativity... I think it even damaged my memory... Now instead of remembering any information, I just remember how to find the information on Google, what to type or what website to visit to get an information. I simply don't remember the info itself... Gosh... Link to post Share on other sites
Coup La-La Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 IF you think she's gay you're probably right, if you think you have depression now, wait until a girl friend leaves you for another woman. Trust me, you don't wanna know what that's like, I've been there and even now several years after the fact it still stings Link to post Share on other sites
Author strozzap Posted April 22, 2013 Author Share Posted April 22, 2013 IF you think she's gay you're probably right, if you think you have depression now, wait until a girl friend leaves you for another woman. Trust me, you don't wanna know what that's like, I've been there and even now several years after the fact it still stings Tell me more about your story, what were the signs that made you believe she might be gay? Link to post Share on other sites
laceyjane Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 Would you consider yourself to be a "nice guy"? I am reading a book called No More Mr. Nice Guy that would indicate that certain types of guys attract a certain type of person to them, that being ones lacking stability. It is related to the idea of codependency, I believe. Just a thought. I agree. We attract people we think we deserve because we see ourselves in them thus having this certain connection. I've read that on a codependency book. You have to change your lifestyle if you want to meet women on a different level. Go out, take a trip to a place you've never been, apply for a gym membership or find a new hobby that you would enjoy. Something that's different from what you have now. Everyone can be funny! Maybe you're just saying goes that now because you're lonely. Link to post Share on other sites
Author strozzap Posted April 24, 2013 Author Share Posted April 24, 2013 Well actually my life is quite different now. I'm from Canada but I now live in Seoul, South Korea... I mean.. how better could it get?... But I still don't feel happy with who I am!... The thing I hate the most about me is the fact that I can't make people laugh... If I could make my girlfriends laugh that would trigger attraction and maybe they would love me... Or people in general, just make people laugh without being a weirdo... How hard is it? But I can't... Everytime I try to make people laugh I get a "yeah right..."... Gosh... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ViresSanctity Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 Well actually my life is quite different now. I'm from Canada but I now live in Seoul, South Korea... I mean.. how better could it get?... But I still don't feel happy with who I am!... The thing I hate the most about me is the fact that I can't make people laugh... If I could make my girlfriends laugh that would trigger attraction and maybe they would love me... Or people in general, just make people laugh without being a weirdo... How hard is it? But I can't... Everytime I try to make people laugh I get a "yeah right..."... Gosh... Laughing is a universal human quality that everyone possesses. I believe it's also in everyone's ability to make other's laugh. You don't think there's a cultural divide where you're at from where you're from? Regardless, I find that the best sort of humor that translates everywhere I go are the ones that come from personal life experience. The ones that actually happened and I'm not afraid to admit it. Pain + time = laughter. Imagine telling your future dates about how you fell in love with a Lesbian... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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