love1336x Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Lol, so my boyfriend finally said it. "I love you" I must admit, it felt nice and real. But something inside me I dunno I felt I couldn't say it back. In which I didn't because... I don't love him. I felt.. *disconnected* Usually in the past I jump for JOY and say it back. I really think I am being careful with my heart this time around, and I am happy for that. He wasn't too hurt the fact I didn't return it, because he knows my past, and all... But... ugh. To be honest I feel I will never say it, and if I do.. chances are it will just to make him happy. :/
Object_a Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Do a favour for both of you by not saying it just to make him happy. That's not something you should lie about even with good intentions.
Author love1336x Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 I will try indeed. When I do say "I love you" will be on my own terms.
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 It's good that you're thinking about how you are actually feeling, it means you're actually reflecting and learning. A lot of people say I love you for the wrong reasons...a fleeting moment, because it's just "about that time to say it" or because everyone knows it's supposed to bit this ultimate gesture of affection...but look around you, a lot of people are throwing it around, sometimes just because they want to be loved more than they actual know or love the person, but because the like the "idea" of love. Anyway, i don't want complicate it for you or go into great detail. But think about your words, and what they mean, and what you feel. I'm sure you're scared to get hurt again, but chances are....you didn't really love those people as much as you thought in the past anyway, and the real thing...has to be reciprocated IMO, it's not a one way street even though you only claim right over how you feel, I think it's worth knowing how your SO other feels too. Learn to communicate and express yourself in your relationships, it will go along way rather than just using excuses like everyone does. Just be honest, because even when the truth hurts...at least the truth is how you really feel...if more people weren't afraid of just hurting someone else, that other person would be better off in the long-run, because the lies never hold up forever and you always feel a bit guilty, maybe even resentful for lying to them and yourself. Try to remember as much of that as you can
veggirl Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 How long have you been dating him? why do you feel you'll never say it? do you love him or not? have you thrown that word around a lot in the past?
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