crispywat Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 What would you do ? I have bene single a few months now (4) and things where boring, so i found myself on a internet site. I got a few girls numbers adn things were ok, but one i really find myself getting on well with, we are texting ridiculous times a day...and due to meet this Friday....however this weekend i went out and met a lovely lady who i got on with well, and we are now also texting like crazy, i am due to see her tomorrow. I feel bad as like them both, do i cancel the later in the week girl? See how it goes 2mrw ? what do i do, im digging myself for a fall i know that but its so hard as want a relationship, there is a chance we wont get on with girl no2 next friday isnt there so am i doing something that wrong ?
Author crispywat Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 What would you do ? I have bene single a few months now (4) and things where boring, so i found myself on a internet site. I got a few girls numbers adn things were ok, but one i really find myself getting on well with, we are texting ridiculous times a day...and due to meet this Friday....however this weekend i went out and met a lovely lady who i got on with well, and we are now also texting like crazy, i am due to see her tomorrow. I feel bad as like them both, do i cancel the later in the week girl? See how it goes 2mrw ? what do i do, im digging myself for a fall i know that but its so hard as want a relationship, there is a chance we wont get on with girl no2 next friday isnt there so am i doing something that wrong ? Anyone can help?
Author crispywat Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 Why do you feel you're only able to see one lady at a time? Don't put all your eggs in one basket as that usually blows up in your face. You've seen lady #1 once - why does that mean that the other lady is no longer an option for you? You're not exclusive with lady #1 so stop shooting yourself in the foot. Dating is all about finding the gal that's right for you. There's nothing wrong with meeting and getting to know a couple of different ladies at the same time until you decide which one is better suited to you. Until you decide to be exclusive with someone, it's a bit silly to paint yourself into a corner and possibly miss opportunities for finding 'the one.' Don't cancel your meeting with lady #2. I guess its just my feelings, i feel like im leading both on.....i went around to see the first girl last night all went well but i know she isnt settling down material. Shes a good laugh etc and i like her but she doesnt wants any more kids as i do etc....but i like her. Girl number 2 seems really nice so guess i should get Friday over with and see where i go from there and stop texting flirty messages to both maybe ?
Gottabestrong Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Crispy, do you live in the UK? I think this might be a cultural thing. I have noticed that 'casual' or 'multidating' is much more prevailing in the US, but barely happens in the UK. If you can already tell that you won't have a relationship with the girl from the last weekend, then you might want to decrease your amount of messages or flirty tone if you are looking for a relationship. My personal advice is to wait and see what the date with girl number 2 on Friday will be like. Don't do anything in between that might jeopardize this date (become exclusive with the other girl, or get intimate if that means you would feel obliged to be exclusive with her). Depending on the dating culture in your country, I would decide after the date on Friday how to proceed. Good luck!
Author crispywat Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 Crispy, do you live in the UK? I think this might be a cultural thing. I have noticed that 'casual' or 'multidating' is much more prevailing in the US, but barely happens in the UK. If you can already tell that you won't have a relationship with the girl from the last weekend, then you might want to decrease your amount of messages or flirty tone if you are looking for a relationship. My personal advice is to wait and see what the date with girl number 2 on Friday will be like. Don't do anything in between that might jeopardize this date (become exclusive with the other girl, or get intimate if that means you would feel obliged to be exclusive with her). Depending on the dating culture in your country, I would decide after the date on Friday how to proceed. Good luck! I am in the UK indeed. I have kind of agreed to see the girl from last night again and have flirted too much since i think!! I kind of like them both in different ways but obvoously Friday night be crucial as she might not even like me! I hate upsetting woman and sometime think the stress of being with anyone is too much, si the single life is easier...but i also get sooo lonely and depressed when im single
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