ChazzB Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 so, her birthday is this weekend we are NC (which means basically she blocked me off everything) , i have no idea if she will come back to town or what... still with every passing day it affects me a bit more... i feel like texting her or sending her a mail just to say that i hope she has a nice day and she is happy... (even though i am not sure if those get through to her anymore) thoughts? should i just do nothing? Link to post Share on other sites
iouaname Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 Why do you want to give her the impression that you are thinking about her? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RiceaRoni Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 Yep. I say dont do anything. Its not worth it. Especially if she left you and has blocked you. Dont waste your words of kidness towards someone who hurt you. Save them for someone who will love you as much as you love them My ex's bday was yesterday and I didnt speak a word to him. Stay strong 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ChazzB Posted April 22, 2013 Author Share Posted April 22, 2013 well... i do think about her... x'D i have been reading many topics and yeah, there is no way she thinks i won't remember... but i guess breaking NC won't make any difference, it sucks... i will try to stay strong Link to post Share on other sites
HumptyDumpty Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 Don't please When it was my birthday last year, I got a text 3 days late (I mean, why write when you didn't remember the date anyways?!), and well, the BU was fresh, not even a month, so I reached out naturally, hoping etc.... Now, it would have been better he never wrote seriously, and on my bday I wasn't happy but it would have helped me move on without a simple bday text! This year, I ignored his bday, I wished him a good one in my head, but that's all I mean, it's over, I don't want to give them the attention, I don't owe them anything anymore, it's over and life continues Link to post Share on other sites
Author ChazzB Posted April 23, 2013 Author Share Posted April 23, 2013 i am thinking of just sending something short, like "happy birthday, hope you are happy" i do wish her the best, even through all the pain and betrayal she was the love of my life until now... Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 i am thinking of just sending something short, like "happy birthday, hope you are happy" Don't contact her at all. I read your other thread where she told you to stop contacting her after you threatened her and her new boyfriend. Then she blocked you from contacting her. That means she doesn't want to hear from you. Leave her alone, please. Link to post Share on other sites
iouaname Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 I think not contacting her on her birthday is the exact thing you need to do. She feels uncomfortable hearing from you, or at least did when she blocked you. Not contacting her sends her the message that you are respecting her wishes and maintaining your dignity. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ChazzB Posted April 23, 2013 Author Share Posted April 23, 2013 well i guess that is true... about the threatening part, it was something along the lines of: "i will know when/if you come back and we are going to talk by then" and "i know where 'x' works and if you don't want to tell me the truth, I will pay him a visit" but in the end I just said something like "I won't do anything, I just wish you had told me the truth" it is going to be tough... Link to post Share on other sites
Jingle14 Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Yep. I say dont do anything. Its not worth it. Especially if she left you and has blocked you. Dont waste your words of kidness towards someone who hurt you. Save them for someone who will love you as much as you love them My ex's bday was yesterday and I didnt speak a word to him. Stay strong 'His' was last Tuesday and I am almost certain he'd have been expecting to hear from me but I've been NC for 6 months now. I'm not feeding his ego, or being the 'mad ex who won't go away'. It was a tough day for me though, I hated every minute and couldn't even bear to look at, or write, the date. The day will soon be over for you and you can hopefully mark it off as 'just another date in the year' in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
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