ThroneH Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Is it normal for a male and female who are "just friends" to spoon? I've been good friends with this girl for a few months. She's never had a boyfriend before and doesn't hook up with men often. She's also the type of girl who's easy to get along with and has alot of male friends. She invited me to stay at her house one night and she wanted to me to sleep with her in her bed, and we just spooned. What's the story? Thanks in advance.
Poppy fields Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Honestly, she sounds like a tease to me. No, you do not spoon with your friends, traditionally. 3
carhill Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Sounds like she wishes the emotional and physical comfort a lover provides without having a committed romantic and sexual relationship. FWIW, I've experienced such potentials many times in life which is why only lovers, meaning sexual partners, occupy my bed or I theirs. No ambiguity. 1
tricolors Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 I sometimes wonder if I live in a different galaxy than some of you. In my galaxy (it's called The Milky Way,) it's considered more than just friendly for a man to sleep with a woman all night while holding her from behind. 3
carhill Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 OP, if it happens again, start caressing her like a lover would and see what happens. My bet is you will get some really good information in that moment. 'Caressing' means touching her in a sexual way. Good luck.
FlyerFan54 Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Clear indication that she's at least interested. Next time make a remark that she feels comfortable and see what her reaction is. Take it from there depending on how she reacts. 1
hudson701 Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Spooning is lovely. Just enjoy it! Make sure you cup a boob whilst you're at it and also that she tucks her hair in so it doesn't itch your face. 1
todreaminblue Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 spooning is lovely when you are in a relationship....it is however very intimate.....not reserved for friends......to me anyway.....spooning is part of a relationship that is intimate in nature....i actually dont like males coming into my room.....let alone lying on the bed next to me...and i have male friends..my room....my bed is my personal space.........if they did try and lie on the bed....they would hit the floor pretty fast....because i would boot them...my male friends know this.my bed is on reserve for me and a significant other...so for now its all mine.......i have booted males out of my room....and they were just standing there...they mopve pretty quick when i say get out....flash them a look of pure fire....lol/....ahem..so to me she must like you alot to do what she did....deb
grkBoy Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Is it normal for a male and female who are "just friends" to spoon? I've been good friends with this girl for a few months. She's never had a boyfriend before and doesn't hook up with men often. She's also the type of girl who's easy to get along with and has alot of male friends. She invited me to stay at her house one night and she wanted to me to sleep with her in her bed, and we just spooned. What's the story? Thanks in advance. My first thought was "cuddle b!tch". That's when a guy friend is allowed to snuggle and cuddle with her like a boyfriend, but he doesn't get to "get intimate" with her. Some guys in this mess will take the girl out, pay, and yet still be friendzoned with this tiny little "benefit". HOWEVER, I can't just instantly assume she's using you. Maybe she likes you and is hoping you'll make a move. Maybe you should make a move and let her reject you, or just come clean and ask her what she wants. And you...what do YOU want with her? 1
phineas Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 I sometimes wonder if I live in a different galaxy than some of you. In my galaxy (it's called The Milky Way,) it's considered more than just friendly for a man to sleep with a woman all night while holding her from behind. In my galaxy a man who does that is called Gay.
veggirl Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 I cannot imagine asking a friend to spoon. That's just weird. She is using you for affection comfort or she is interested. Did you at least make a move? I'd refuse a guys request to cuddle if he was just a friend, cuddling is for relationships, I don't cuddle my girl friends why would I cuddle male friends? I'd also never ask a guy over to just spoon me. So weird. I think she just wants attention. 1
Aerrie Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Spooning is frakking uncomfortable, you get an endless boner, dying arm and shtloads of hair all over your damn face, all while she is perfectly comfortable. Whenever I do that, i wanna *** the girls brains out. So yea, I would not recommend it for "friends :bunny:". By the way, how did she react to your boner while spooning?? Or did you have to move your lower bottom away?
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