Breaking up, getting over it

[KeithWc]

Heyy guys. I know your all going through a really rough time. It seemingly one of the worst pains you'd ever felt in your life and I understand it completely. I'm recently out of a 1.5 year relationship with a women and its been really rough. However I can assure you that there is hope to getting over, and or getting back with your ex. See, my ex and I broke up because of what I think some would call the "gigs". She's 20 and we started dating the year she graduated high school. I just turned 23 btw. Anyways, we broke up because she didn't want to regret not "having fun" in college. It was actually not a bad break up. It was on good terms. We didn't talk for about 2 weeks and I get a text randomly one after noon. Saying "I want to start over and work on things, but take it slow". Naturally, I agreed whole heartedly because this was my second chance with the girl I loved. WRONG. She was stringing me along. She wouldn't text me, although if I texted her we'd talk, we hung out a couple of times up until about a week ago. I got sick of her needing "more time to figure out what she wants. See I was out with a couple friends the other night. One of them had went through a really tough break up the previous year. Well she had recently started trying to get ahold of him, but she had put him through so much s**t that he'd had enough. Although he loves her he's determined to keep his dignity and self respect. Anyways he saw me get angry while I was texting my ex, mind you i was drunk but my feelings came out, yelling at her for not trying and putting effort in when SHE told me she wanted to try again. My friend at one point looks at me and says " dude, she's changed, she's not the same girl you were dating, stop talking to her" now I had heard all my friends say it, but that night when he said it, something clicked, and my brain and emotions were in total agreements with each other. I texted her the next day, apologizing for yelling at her and also telling her i need to move on and stop this with her, something I didn't think I could do. I chose to let the universe work itself out, because it always does. Your not in control of it, so why stress it? knowing my ex I'm about 90 percent sure she'll be back to reconcile at some point but for right now, I'm letting things flow. The universe doesn't stop for anyone or anything, it's always in motion. Sit back and enjoy the ride. Ever since that night I did that a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders and that gut wrenching feeling in my stomach has ceased. It's been a little over a month since my break up but I'm well on my way to recovery. I'm not totally over it, but I'm certainly getting there.

 

Oh. And by the way. I met a really cute girl at work and I just took her home about an hour ago haha. Anyways. Take a step back, stop trying so hard. Remember, your valuable and need to understand that if you want to get your ex back, or move on. Either way it's a win-win.