spirius Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Turns out all my worries about a particular guy are coming true. Rumours abound that my ex and him are hanging out all the time and on Saturday they went out on his motorbike all day, then to a bbq and then hung at hers. She volunteered this information, incidentally. I'm doing a pretty good job of moving on now and although she insists they are just friends at the moment, the language very much suggests there is a very real possibility of more soon. I accept that. I'm struggling with feelings that our relationship must pale in comparison with this bloke. He's about my age, but he smokes (somehow that's cool right?) and he's got a sodding motorbike. Keep seeing her getting all excited about whizzing around etc BBqs no big deal etc nor is hanging, but for some reason I'm feeling very conscious that this guy is so much cooler than I am. I'm not very sporty and don't do rollercoasters, go-karting that kind of stuff. I'm feeling like I'm not enough to entertain and excite. TBH I don't really want to do those things. I guess the bike and the fact he is thinner is probably all he's got on me. But it's tearing me up that she might be having such a whale of a time that it makes our time together look ridiculous. We did alot of gigs and camping weekends etc I made her laugh alot. But I guess I'm not very...exciting Makes me worry that the same thing will just happen next time.
denxnis Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Get over it, do what makes you happy. Break-ups can make you or break you. Take this time to improve yourself in some way. You control your own happiness, if you want to check-up on your ex and bring yourself down that's your decision to make. Otherwise I suggest you remove her from your life, don't check up on her or the douche she is dating, and go live your ****ing life to the fullest. You have a limited number of days in your life, don't let her steal any more days of your beautiful life, cherish it, time flies. 3
LoveB86 Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 It is much more easier said than done. All I can say just like the poster above mentioned: Vanish from her life. Gain self control by flipping the act of "She's over you" to "You don't have time for her bulls**t" Better yourself, volunteer, work on your self image, learn to surf or go to a baseball game. Do something that is going to help you take the focus off of her and back on to you. What I had been doing, still struggling, but I am exercising, whitening my teeth (even though I always do) and trying to focus on looking even better :-/ hehe 1
Minneloa Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 She volunteered this information, incidentally. You are subjecting yourself to unnecessary self-torture by staying in contact with your ex. Cut this woman off and eliminate these painful triggers for your insecurity. Honestly, why are you doing this to yourself?
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