lastresort Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 (edited) Here is how I got my second chance. My GF broke up with me 6 weeks ago. Long story but I pretty much screwed the pooch and got drunk and said things that should never had been said she left. When she left she told me no chance ever we would get back together. The first 2 weeks I fought, begged and pleaded. Pretty much did everything wrong. I finally gave up the fight and just tried to be friends with her. I gave her no more pressure. As time went by she finally started to realize I was going to fight for her but not pressure her. By week three she was at my house having sex with me. Still did not pressure anything about relationship. Another week went by and she asked me to take her on a date. Date went well took her home and since then she has been at my hip. I give her what she wanted, the freedom to go out when ever she wanted. This weekend she had plans to go out with her girlfriends on Saturday. She cancelled her plans to go out with me, her idea not mine. Asked me about going to a wedding with her In a couple weeks and also made plans for a wine country trip for her girlfriends bday that is in June. My advice for any guy out there fighting the fight is just let things go. Remember one thing, you have to quit talking about the past. Your not going to fix the past the past is history you need to start thinking and working on the future. Don't talk about the changes you are making to yourself let your action do the talking. This may not work for a situations but it worked for mine. Not sure why it worked but I don't question it anymore. Good luck and hang in there. It will get better either with her or with out her. Life goes on. PEACE Edited April 22, 2013 by lastresort
Sososad Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Great to hear a good story for a change. Fair play and hope things work for you guys!! 2
DavidSoBased Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 This is how it works. You just have to better yourself and make yourself even more attractive than the you that she fell for. If she still doesn't come back then nothing will make her come back. Live life as though you may never hear from her again. I'm happy for you man.
moneyneversleeps Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 This is the most depressing story. Reason being. My girlfriend also said we had no chance. Then she asked to go to dinner and have sex. I cancelled on her. She then proceeded to ask again to catch up. I felt like she was just trying to lead me on again. Now we haven't spoken for 2 weeks (broken up 3 months now), she has slept with other guys and i feel like this was my last chance to make good. *sigh*
swiftly333 Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Money, What did you expect? You rejected her, she assumed that meant you didn't care and she moved on. This is what happens when you are dishonest and try to be emotionally manipulative.... I guess that is a lesson learned. I'm trying to do the no pressure contact with my ex, while working on bettering myself, myself but it doesn't seem to be getting any where for me. But I think this is the only way to really go about things.... although most would advise no sex until you've reconciled. But to each their own. I hope you guys can make this work this time! Good luck!
SNH1993 Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 That's what i have also been trying to do with my ex, although we see each other almost every day i do try and give her the space she probably needs. It isn't a game i'm playing in trying to manipulate or anything but i figure if she wants to talk to me when shes ready, then she will. We recently brke up because of a drug problem i had and am working on and now that summer is coming along all of her girlfriends are out of school so i just let her do the contacting so i'm not smothering her.
moneyneversleeps Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 she was very lonely. I told her i wanted her back. then everyone kept saying not to tell her. I thought she might be using me to soften the blow of the break up, i didn't want to be strung along, because everytime we meet, i am a mess. I felt like i needed to reject her, and let her feel the pain. Also i felt like i needed this for my own sanity.. If i went through with it, i would have expected more than a friendship, and she made it very clear that, more than friends was not an option..
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