John Saksefski Posted September 19, 2004 Posted September 19, 2004 Hi I don't really know why I am here doing this but I am feeling lonely today well most every day now. I have just relocated the the southeast and have no friends or family here. I was in a going nowhere relationship it was always on her terms you know we would go out if she wanted to otherwise she was to busy see me or even talk to me. so it is over now. But what is really strange is even though my needs were not even closely met I still miss her. Granted hers were obviously not met either. So when this new job came available I could not pass it up it was a substantial raise for me and provides me with much more proffesional freedom but it required me to move away from family and friends and from my only source of contact with the opposite sex. now i have been here for a couple of months and am finding that i have no desire to get out and meet people I just sit in the house if front of the idiot box doing nothing I am not even cleaning the house. Trust me I am not looking for sympathy but perhaps a friendly kick in the but to get me going. Can any one give me some advise on where to go or who to contact to talk about these things Thanks
MrRX7 Posted September 19, 2004 Posted September 19, 2004 hey bro i'm going through the same s h i t..just move back, i am when i'm done with school....also i bought a 1993 Mazda RX-7 its a sweet ride plus you get all the ladies.
Karlise13 Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 you just sound a little overwhelmed! When I moved from NY to PA (not a grand move, granted, but still a move) I found myself in a similar predicament. Fortunately, I had my BF (we live together) but ALL my friends were hours away, as were my family. It really sucked. It's harder to make friends as an adult than it is in college. Sometimes I'd find myself moping around the house, wishing I had someone to call and go shopping with. Just a girlfriend to chat over coffee with. It took about 2 years to really settle in and get comfortable here, I have to say. I did a lot of different things in order to meet people; first off, I invited people from work to go out socializing. Some were into it, some weren't. But eventually a few people would go out about once a month with me for happy hour. I took a volunteer job at a library as a literacy aide. I did it for about a year. I joined a social club for adults without children. That helped me meet some like minded people. Anytime my BF's family members needed help, I volunteered my time. That way I got to know them better. I took a class on photography at the Adult Night School. Oh....and very helpful! We bought two dogs! When you have dogs you will meet lots of other dog people! You will be OK. It takes time to feel at home. Everyone goes through those blue periods.
re3rocks Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 all i know about stuff is u gotta do everything u can and stay tough. from action, comes reaction.
moimeme Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 It is very hard switching cities when you're an adult. It takes a lot of work to feel comfortable in your new town and to get to know folks but eventually, it's worth it. I'm in my two and a halfth year in this town and now I've gotten to the point where I often run into people I know when I'm out. But for the first while, it was kinda bleak. You can't let yourself turn into a hermit. It's easier, but empty. Karlise had a bunch of great ideas. Look for some group to join and you'll soon have new friends.
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