gold26 Posted September 19, 2004 Posted September 19, 2004 hello friends, my boyfriend and i had a row during the hurricane ivan.. we had been on messenger for several hours and at that time all he had storm wise was some light rain and wind.. here is the lowdown of what occured.. we spoke for hours and then when the storm caused his lights to blink i told him he should go... we had had a small dossagrement a few days before and i wanted to explain that he had totally missunderstood me.. what had happened was some woman who worked at the chamber of commerce had called teasing him about seeing him drive thru town with a woman in his truck..the woman was an old women friend he knows.. it seemed odd to me when he told me that this woman had gone to her phone after seeing him and left a message teasing him about holding back information that he had got hitched.. i asked why this woman would be so interested in who he was seeing ? he became sarcastic and made comments like oh maybe she was jealous.. implying that was what i ment by asking him about her.. i tried to explain to him that as his girlfriend i had every right to ask questions and that i was not fighting at all.. he went on to explain that this woman and her husband were aquaintances and he spoke to them a lot in town and they they tease each other back and forth.. so i replied.. well i didnt know that and if he had given me more details i wouldnt have wondered.. he does this a lot to me and i told him that i sometimes feel he deliberatly leavse out details to bate me and when i ask questions he immediately jumps me and accuses me of accusing him of flirting and of women being interested in him...again i told him i did not imply she was interested in him as a man.. but that before inunderstood the circumstances i felt she must be a busy body... i ask him to simply give me the respect i deserve.. while this was happening unbenownst to me.. i guess the storm got worse.. and while i typed the last line he typed.. no you werent you were f--ing talking just to hear yourself speak.. i need to go this f-ing place is shaking ..bye. and clicked off on me... i was very hurt by him cursing like that and leaving but i left it at that.. i watched the storm all night and the next morning i called his house..he answered and sounded same as usual.. i will admit i did something stupid.. instead of talking ,i just hung up.. at 6 pm i recieved this email from him... ""power has just come back on. we are in a state of emergency. Im glad to know you were concerned. Had I been open to continuing our discussion about my looser friends here you probably would have been a little more concerned. Funny some of those losers came by on 4 wheelers to check on me since no phone contact was available. the last thing I told you was that this home was vibrating from the storm and all you could do was continuing recounting that stupid previous conversation. your the only looser in my life.'' i replied twice.. here was what i said.. a very good friend of my fathers died and we went to the funeral today.. i called your home at 12;00 you were out.. at 1:15 i called your house again.. you answered the phone and sounded fine.. rather than subjecting you to me talking just to hear myself speak, i hung up..i watched the asheville news site the entire night and did not sleep a wink. it was very nice of your friends to ride by and see you were ok..your very lucky to have them.. i also read that 8 people very close by were not so lucky.. my heart goes out to them i am very sorry you feel that i am the only looser in your life.. I sincerely appreciate your honesty.. here is what i said..in the second email.. did not call anyone a hideous name like a looser.i have never used it and NEVER will. thats your word..you have used it many times even when talking about the very same people you call friends.. i wonder how you would feel if someone spoke to your daughter the way you have to me?..you would be first in line to point the finger and shake your bible.. i dont need to speak just to hear myself talk.. there are actually people in the world who find what i have to say intelligent and interesting.. i kept the script from last night and have attached it .. i thank god i did..i have proof of what i did NOT say and that i called nobody a looser.. shame on you bernie sampson..shame on you for telling such vile things about me. shame on you I did nothing to you.. i accused you of nothing i have never NEVER called you such a hurtful thing in my life.. and i dont think you should be around someone you clearly think so little of.. Jesus says : if thy brothers hand strikes you down, turn the other cheek... May God keep you and the people you hold dear safe.. thank you once again for your honesty.. i honestly did not call anybody anything.. i only did think it was weird that some woman would take such an interest in who he was seeing or dating.. but in a busy body sense. not like i felt she wanted him.. i really would like someones opinion on if i did anything wrong.. i know calling him and hanging up was stupid but he also will know when he thinks back thet he did get a hangup call at the time i stated..so i did not neglect to check on him and i was concerned.. its just hard to call and be nice to someone who attacked you and swore at you for absolutly no good reason... thank you for taking the time to read this..
Author gold26 Posted September 20, 2004 Author Posted September 20, 2004 well yesterday my nephew asked me what was going on and i explained it to him.. he had been there when i had called his house and knew i had... he sugested calling him and telling him he was wrong in thinking so badly about me.. it started out fine.. he told him what i wanted him to tell.. but he added a few things of his own like he didnt appreciate the email he had sent me.. he didnt deserve a girl like me.and he wasnt much of a man to say the things he had in the email. he reolied to my nephew that he didnt know the details of what had been going on..(guess what,,i dont either).. i whispered to please not fight.. just tell him the truth and hang up.. my nephew said he asked him to put me on... he motioned for me to get on.. i refused.. so he told him i wasnt there.. my b/f said he knew i was because he could hear me speaking.. my nephew simply told him that he didnt think i wanted to talk to him... my boyfriend just said ok.. thank you for calling and they both hung up tonight i sent him another email.. i explain that i felt he was upset because of all that has happened with the storm in his area.. and that he was angry thinking that i had not tried to reach him.. and that when i let my nephew call him it was just to prove that i had called.. i told him that if he cools down and thinks back he will remember a call where he answered and there was no answer..i said i was stubburn and stupid to have done that and i was sorry.but i had planned on calling him later that night.. but he had sent me the nasty email before i had the chance... i just didnt want him to think that i had not worried or cared.. after i sent the email i called and left a message asking him to read my email and that i was sorry .. i didnt want us to have this dissagreement between us.. that i love him and that i miss him... .. i later called and left a message saying that i could also prove i had called at the time i said when i phone bill comes in because it will say what time i called him on it and also display his phone number and the date.. i called a little while ago and im not sure buthe may have unplugged his phone because his phone now rings when it usually is picked up by his answering machine... i just dont know what to do now.. but wait and see... do any of you see what i did as being so awful and unforgivable?
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