raider09 Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 last week i gave my barista crush my number she has not contacted me yet. i haven't been to the coffee shop lately but when i do im just gonna keep it casual and cool any advice? I know i should move on and pursue other women but i feel like i least have to see if i can make it into something more. anyone have any success stories they wanna share?
outsidethebox Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 It's not exactly being rejected if she wasn't looking. She may very well not be looking, she may be in a relationship, etc. You're going to press it until either you or her or both are going to be upset the way you're going. See if you can develop a crush on someone that has shown some interest in you.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 last week i gave my barista crush my number she has not contacted me yet. i haven't been to the coffee shop lately but when i do im just gonna keep it casual and cool any advice? I know i should move on and pursue other women but i feel like i least have to see if i can make it into something more. anyone have any success stories they wanna share? Did you read what I wrote in your original thread? I gave lots of advice and at least one story about how I overcame the rejection and got the girl. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 I think you should walk in wearing a penguin suit tuxedo with a film crew and propose...that usually get's them. To run away. 2
Author raider09 Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 Let it go. There's a reason she did not contact you. actually i did get a phone call later that day when i gave her the note. but my phone reception is horrible i did t call the number back but no answer and i did call the next day so i dont know if i messed up by doing that.
JuneJulySeptember Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 last week i gave my barista crush my number she has not contacted me yet. i haven't been to the coffee shop lately but when i do im just gonna keep it casual and cool any advice? I know i should move on and pursue other women but i feel like i least have to see if i can make it into something more. anyone have any success stories they wanna share? Unless you can get face transplant surgery, there is almost no way. 2
Estate Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 last week i gave my barista crush my number she has not contacted me yet. i haven't been to the coffee shop lately but when i do im just gonna keep it casual and cool any advice? I know i should move on and pursue other women but i feel like i least have to see if i can make it into something more. anyone have any success stories they wanna share? Well you could have started by actually asking her out instead of expecting her to do something. But also, your right, having a crush and obsessing on one girl is a bit useless unless she feels the same. How many guys leave their numbers of napkins for cute baristas? Do you think she desperately calls all of them? At least set yourself apart and be a man.
Estate Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Unless you can get face transplant surgery, there is almost no way. Wisdom beyond your years as usual. 1
Jefezen Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 It is very premature to give up just because she didn't call you right away when you first wanted her to do it. Play it casual. No one likes someone who comes across as desperate and needy. But I don't think you're necessarily out of consideration either. Some people like gentle persistence. Even though I'm a guy, there've been plenty of instances where I was either somewhat interested in a woman, or barely noticed her, yet as a result of her repeated efforts to get my attention, I developed more of an attraction to her than she ever had in me, even after she ceased being interested! It definitely happens and it's probably more common in the opposite direction where it's the male initially pursuing the female. If I were you, I would continue to show up at the coffee shop and act nonchalant as though you're not the least bit offended. Don't exclusively focus on her, talk to other people at the coffee shop too, male and female, preferably within earshot of her, and certainly within her line of vision. This will give her insight into your personality and into how you interact with other people. It could even make her jealous if she sees you hitting it off with lots of patrons. She might think to herself, "Look how popular this guy is and yet it was me who he first wanted to ask out. Maybe I overlooked something about him and should give it a chance." I wouldn't get my hopes up. I wouldn't eschew all other potential opportunities in favor of this one woman. But you don't have to give up on her either. Just be patient, take your time, act comfortable, confident, and happy. Continue to lightly flirt with her when the opportunity presents itself, but also show an occasional serious side so that she recognizes you have depth of character. After significant time elapses, a few weeks, a month, you can try asking her out a second time. If she still ignores you or says no, then there's not much you can do other than to continue being a non-nuisance presence in her life in the remote chance that she independently changes her mind and decides to take the lead.
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