luckster Posted September 19, 2004 Posted September 19, 2004 Ive been dating a guy for 8 weeks and in the beginning he was not great about calling...we went out every weekend though. Now he has gotten a lot better about calling. He even called me the other night to wish me luck for something. He called me friday and we chatted. He said he wanted to see me that night, but he had to pick his friend up at airport...but he'd call me...he called me at 1am and said his friends plane was late...didnt come in until midnight, and was supposed to be in at 1030. However...yesterday he had a wedding to go to and said he wanted to see me so bad, so he was going to leave early. I figured he wouldnt end up leaving, but I said ok. So he called me around 9 and told me all about the wedding and asked me if i wanted to come out and meet his friends and then come over, he wanted me to see his new dog. They were still at the reception when he called. So I said sure, and he said he'd call me when they were heading over and I could meet them there. Well by 1200 he still hadn't called, so I called him. On the second ring someone picked up but I just heard a lot of guys talking...like i had heard when he called me at the reception, so I hung up and called back and got his VM. Is this considered "standing Me up", should i be mad, should I call him todday? I really like him a lot, we have a ton in common, and he always tells me how he misses me and wants to see me. I mean, he did tell me at the beginning of the week how he had this wedding and a few of his friends were staying with him the weekend, from out of town...but...Im confused. When we go out, we have a great time...I know he's interested, but what is he doing.
Merin Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 What he is doing is being very inconsiderate! Yes you have the right to be angry, it isn't okay to make plans with someone and then not follow through not even with a call to let you know something else came up!? That isn't okay regardless of if his friends were in town. Don't sit by the phone waiting on this guy to show up or call you. If you want to continue to date him then all you but if this pattern of behaviour continues and this wasn't just due to the wedding then the next time he asks you out if he hasn't shown up or called you within a reasonable amount of time, then go out without him. Don't make yourself so available.
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